FOCUS ON ME

Every time I get lost within myself, a bit overwhelmed, or generally listless, I go off for long walks.What works for you?A recent movie that I saw had a beautiful dialogue that jumped out:“Just focus on you”.You can spend your whole life worrying about other people, but your time is right now.This means that if I, as a person, am not at peace with myself for various reasons, I (may) end up playing the victim card.We have our ups and downs. It’s a sign we’ve all gone through.But my time is right now.As they say on the plane, “First put on your oxygen mask and then help the person next to you.”So there are times when we will need to forcibly sit down. Recalibrate.Think about where I am. Where do I need to go? What’s happening? And how do I press a hard reset or a reboot?I mean that from a positive perspective. Focus on you. There’s a whole lot of time available for us to think about “What will other people think?” What will they do?”“But how can I help myself?” is a question that we seldom ask.Looking in the mirror, there’s only one image that jumps out. That image is solitary in the whole wide world.Yes, there are friends, there’s family, there’s always a support system. But most and foremost, am I standing for myself? If not, this is the time to focus on “I, me, myself”.There is nothing selfish about it. None.If I am not for myself, who else is for me?I will go ahead and paraphrase something I learned from a Buddhist monk.Be wisely selfish.Because when I am still, my mind is calm.That is when I can reach out and help a whole lot of people.But right now, the time to focus is on me.Additional READS on “Shameless Creativity”:An enemy is a blessingPlant the StoryWhen momentum slowsThe “I also do that” virusCRUSH the creative committeeIs it good enough?You DO NOT need permission for a REFORMStumble in the StreakThe 3rd Draft LieGet bored on purpose!An Audience that DOESN’T EXIST!The Tidy Desk Delusion!Phantom pain of past crushesThanks for reading The Shameless Outlier!Subscribe to receive new posts andBe Shameless This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit pravinshekar.substack.com