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EPISODE · Apr 17, 2025 · 48 MIN

From Autopilot to Awake: Using the Enneagram for Real Connection with Todd Payne S3E114

from Transforming 45 · host Lisa Boate

In this episode of Transforming 45, Lisa sits down with relationship coach and Enneagram expert Todd Payne for a deeply insightful conversation on midlife transformation, emotional intelligence, and the power of understanding ourselves and others through the Enneagram. Todd shares his unconventional path from ministry to coaching and how life’s disruptions can reveal unexpected gifts. Together, Lisa and Todd explore how receptivity, vulnerability, and self-awareness can transform not only our inner worlds but also our most important relationships. This episode dives into: The nine Enneagram types, their core motivations, and emotional responses Why emotional intelligence matters now more than ever Practical tools for reconnecting with your partner in midlife How understanding your Enneagram type can help you avoid autopilot living The link between sensory experiences and embodiment Why revisiting the reasons we fell in love can rekindle connection  Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Midlife Transformation and the Enneagram 04:56 Todd's Journey: From Ministry to Coaching 10:53 Navigating Life's Upheavals and Embracing Change 15:15 Understanding the Enneagram: A Framework for Self-Discovery 20:11 Exploring the Nine Enneagram Types 26:07 Understanding the Enneagram Types: Sevens and Sixes 27:32 Exploring the Body Center: Eights, Nines, and Ones 29:29 Emotional Intelligence and the Enneagram 31:28 Personal Growth Through Self-Awareness 32:15 The Four Pillars of Emotional Intelligence 35:08 Navigating Relationships with the Enneagram 41:58 Reconnecting with Partners: Tools for Lasting Relationships Whether you're brand new to the Enneagram or knee-deep in self-discovery, this episode will inspire you to approach midlife with curiosity, compassion, and clarity. 🎧 Tune in now and rediscover the power of being seen, heard, and understood—by yourself and the people you love. Let’s Stay Connected: Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Got questions or feedback? Drop us a message at [email protected] Download my Free Guide - How To Reignite Your Purpose Without Feeling Overwhelmed or Guilty! How to Connect with Todd: Instagram Website Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Transforming 45, Lisa sits down with relationship coach and Enneagram expert Todd Payne for a deeply insightful conversation on midlife transformation, emotional intelligence, and the power of understanding ourselves and others through the Enneagram. Todd shares his unconventional path from ministry to coaching and how life’s disruptions can reveal unexpected gifts. Together, Lisa and Todd explore how receptivity, vulnerability, and self-awareness can transform not only our inner worlds but also our most important relationships. This episode dives into: The nine Enneagram types, their core motivations, and emotional responses Why emotional intelligence matters now more than ever Practical tools for reconnecting with your partner in midlife How understanding your Enneagram type can help you avoid autopilot living The link between sensory experiences and embodiment Why revisiting the reasons we fell in love can rekindle connection  Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Midlife Transformation and the Enneagram 04:56 Todd's Journey: From Ministry to Coaching 10:53 Navigating Life's Upheavals and Embracing Change 15:15 Understanding the Enneagram: A Framework for Self-Discovery 20:11 Exploring the Nine Enneagram Types 26:07 Understanding the Enneagram Types: Sevens and Sixes 27:32 Exploring the Body Center: Eights, Nines, and Ones 29:29 Emotional Intelligence and the Enneagram 31:28 Personal Growth Through Self-Awareness 32:15 The Four Pillars of Emotional Intelligence 35:08 Navigating Relationships with the Enneagram 41:58 Reconnecting with Partners: Tools for Lasting Relationships Whether you're brand new to the Enneagram or knee-deep in self-discovery, this episode will inspire you to approach midlife with curiosity, compassion, and clarity. 🎧 Tune in now and rediscover the power of being seen, heard, and understood—by yourself and the people you love. Let’s Stay Connected: Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Got questions or feedback? Drop us a message at [email protected] Download my Free Guide - How To Reignite Your Purpose Without Feeling Overwhelmed or Guilty! How to Connect with Todd: Instagram Website Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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