Getting Over Your Break Up with Emmi Fortin

This episodes guest is Emmi Fortin, a Breakup and Relationship Coach and Author who helps her clients process and recover from ended relationships or difficult relationships that are keeping them stuck and helps them move on to a happy and healthy partnership in which they can live the life that they want for their future.    John and Emmi talk about her coaching program and the three R’s, how we develop unhealthy relationship patterns in childhood, the confrontation of bad relational habits, her past relationships and break ups and her journey to recovery. KEY TAKEAWAYS Emmi increases her clients confidence and self value so that they can create the relationship they want in the future. Emmi’s coaching program ‘Wake Up from Your Break-Up’ is based around what she calls her three R’s. Reflect. Release. Reinstall. Reflect. Emmi and her clients will spend a few weeks doing exercises that get the client to identify all of the current emotions, thoughts and patterns. Release. The client is asked to challenge the current situation and ask questions like ‘Is this serving me? Is there a way that I could change this to serve me better?’. Reinstall. The client is encouraged into forward thinking about who they want to be, where they want to be and how to get there. If you don’t have a healthy example in your childhood of a relationship it is no surprise that people grow up unable to see the warning signs of an unhealthy relationship. Emmi’s book ‘Who Is Your Red Dress? : One Woman’s Quest to Break Up with a Love Addiction’ is the account of her past relationships and her struggle to break her patterns of choosing unhealthy relationships. BEST MOMENTS  ‘Similar to what people have heard about the grief process there’s really no linear way to go about it, but I kind of stick to what I call my three R’s and I’ve created this whole coaching program around layering these three ideas.’ – Emmi   ‘People come to me and say, I’ve been in a bunch of relationships but even though they’re with different people they all seem to be the same.’ - Emmi ‘We are not taught any of this stuff about relationships growing up at all. We go to school and we learn about Maths and English etc, but no one actually sits down and says ‘these are the signs of a healthy relationship, these are the signs of an unhealthy relationship.’’ – John. ‘You would go from feeling completely broken, I remember literally lying on my living room floor in the foetal position, clenching my heart and crying to then having these euphoric highs.’ – Emmi ‘There were times when I would make advances and times when I would fall back. I would even tell myself, like, Oh, another relapse! However, there was that very clear moment for me and it was the one where I was lying on my floor heaving, crying, but I stopped because I all of a sudden got this clear message that said ‘you are keeping yourself here.’’ – Emmi ‘Even just giving myself that three weeks to totally focus on my own stuff and not constantly spend every minute of my day worrying about what that other person was doing or what was going on with us. Bringing the focus back to me for that allotted period of time was tremendous.’ – Emmi   GUEST RESOURCES Links: www.emmifortin.com Relationship Cheat Sheet [free download] www.emmifortin.com/whoihelp Book  book.whoisyourreddress.com/author  6 Things You Can Do NOW to Get Over Your Ex [freedownload] www.emmifortin.com Breakup Support & Connection Group www.emmifortin.com/about  VALUABLE RESOURCES Link to my workshop -   https://www.johnkennycoaching.com/5- things-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-loving-relationship/ To get in touch - email – [email protected]  or book a complimentary call – https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy         ABOUT THE HOST  I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose. CONTACT METHOD Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/ Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach} YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ Clubhouse - @relationshipguy Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.