Grieving the Marriage and Getting a Lawyer

Welcome to the Divorced But Never Defeated podcast.We, Divorced Mom and Divorced Dad, represent two different divorce experiences, and know the process can feel lonely and challenging. This is a podcast where we’ll share some things we’ve learned the hard way so you don’t have to, as well as what we’ve discovered about co-parenting, healing, and creating a bright future for ourselves after divorce.We want you to know that if your life has had a touchpoint with divorce, there is always hope, and we’re here to walk alongside you.There is so much to grieve as life changes in this way. It takes time, therapy, and an understanding community to process.We hope that the topics in this podcast, though sometimes difficult, can be discussed in productive and community-building ways and that we can be a resource for anyone who finds themselves considering, walking through, or processing divorce.Today’s episode is about the moments we first realized things were ending in our first marriages, and our experience with lawyers soon after that.I (Divorced Dad) experienced an increase in control, criticism, and campaigning against me as things began to end. I (Divorced Mom) on the other hand, had to covertly prepare my exit to ensure the safety of my kids and myself. Wise counsel from supportive, insightful professionals aided us both in these trying times. So, on top of seeking quality therapy, we both highly encourage you to interview more than one lawyer, ideally in-person, and take your time choosing one. The lawyer relationship is a longer-term relationship than you might initially think. This person is going to help you negotiate finances, get time with your kids, possibly help you get restraining orders, and more.If you feel like they’re hard to get a hold of, they’re discounting you, or the vibe is off - keep looking. Remember that you’re not alone, and you can do this. We’re in this together.Subscribe to hear future episodes where we’ll discuss custody, defamation, boundaries, recovery, identity, and much more.