Healing from Narcissistic Abuse: Rewiring the Mind and Body with Laura

Loraine welcomes Laura, a Somatic Trauma Informed Coach and Narcissistic Abuse Specialist, to Mindset, Money, Success. Laura is helping women who have escaped narcissistic abusive relationships by guiding them out of anxious thought patterns and back into their bodies to process feelings, regaining control, confidence, and calmness. The episode explores the role of somatic healing in trauma recovery, the emotional energy spiral, and tools for processing difficult emotions like anger and grief. Both the host and guest share their commitment to supporting women who often lack resources after leaving abusive situations.Invitation To Join Skool As A Creator - For coaches, trainers, and creators sharing content and building recurring revenue. Best Moments Laura explains that if the body has been in survival mode for extended periods, it learns to remain in a stressful state (stiff posture, shallow breathing). Healing involves telling yourself a new story (mindset) while also giving the brain safe experiences in the body (somatic work), such as slowing down shallow breathing, to rewire the brain's patterns and signal safety.A discussion of how anger is a natural part of the grieving process when recovering from abuse. Laura provides a practical somatic exercise: pushing your hands together or pushing against a wall to release anger, allowing the body to move back into balance rather than suppressing the emotion. Healing from narcissistic abuse is different from healing from a standard breakup. Survivors must process the deep grief of realising that the life and person they believed in were almost entirely fake. The realisation that they were in an abusive relationship often helps survivors define and process their experiences. Laura notes that she was inspired to become a specialist because she personally lacked support when she was going through her own experience, leading to a strong urge to help other women in the same situation. Loraine echoed this sentiment, expressing awe at the support Laura provides, which she did not have when she was left in 2020. Key Takeaways For recovery, it is essential to focus on both the mind (therapy, education, journaling) and the body (somatic work, breath-work ). Somatic coaching teaches skills to regulate emotions that can be applied to future life challenges. Narcissistic abuse erodes self-esteem, impacts the emotional vibration, potentially leading to the "no will to live" stage. Tools to release anger, learning new skills, truth-telling, or engaging in free activities like singing, dancing, or listening to music can help. Abuse often involves gaslighting and silent treatment that are hard to spot until after the fact. Abuse often results in isolation, loss of community and family connections, and financial devastation due to the abuser's entrapping and sabotaging the victim's opportunities. Various physical activities can aid healing, weights to rebuild strength, or simply moving your body by dancing to loud music. For deep emotional processing, survivors can practice mindfulness (e.g., while brushing teeth). Connect for Support: Finding other people in various healing stages and sharing stories is incredibly validating and helps survivors realise they are not alone and that their situation won't define them moving forward. To connect with Laura, find her work at https://salltsisters.com Support the Podcast and Loraine's recovery Buy Me Coffee