Homosocial, Misogyny, and the Will to Show Up

In this premiere episode of The Weight and the Wonder, Psychologist Jason Herndon and Clinical Social Worker Philicia Ross unpack two viral conversations shaping how we think about relationships. First, they examine the difference between homosocial preference and misogyny, asking a harder question beneath the discourse: when someone says they “just prefer the guys,” is that neutral… or is it revealing a belief system about women’s worth?Then, they turn to a powerful conversation about inconsiderate behavior and boundaries. When someone consistently fails to consider you, is that intentional? Or is it a skill deficit? Jason and Philicia introduce the distinction between will and skill, exploring how that framework can shift the way we assess patterns, respond to behavior, and decide what to do next.Throughout the episode, they move beyond hot takes and internet diagnoses to model something different: slowing down, adding context, and asking better questions. Because most viral moments are missing one thing—nuance.In This Episode, We Explore:The difference between preference and devaluationWhat misogyny actually looks like in relationshipsWhy platonic friendships across gender matterWill vs. skill: are they unwilling or unable?What someone’s reaction to your boundary revealsWhy “that’s just who I am” is informationThe role we play in staying in certain relational patternsContext in social media discourse, from therapy speak to pay transparencyWhat anime and storytelling can teach us about community and growthIf this conversation resonated, share it with someone who appreciates depth over drama. Leave a review, subscribe, and join us as we continue exploring the weight of relationships and the wonder of understanding them more fully.Hosted by:Jason Herndon, Licensed PsychologistPhilicia Ross, Clinical Social Worker and Licensed Mental Health ProfessionalFind Us on Social Media:Our InstagramOur YouTube ChannelConnect with Philicia:InstagramLinkedInWebsiteConnect with Jason:InstagramLinkedInWebsite