How to Stop Being a Perfectionist (Ep. 19)

In one of our most focused episodes to date, Luke deconstructs the notion of perfection and suggests achiveable standards, such as authentic self-expression, that are still worth striving toward: Perfection is an unrealistic and unattainable standard that no one can truly achieve, even in simple tasks like drawing a perfect circle. Holding yourself to a standard of perfection is unnecessarily cruel and prevents you from being genuine, authentic, and relatable to others. Your worth as a human being is independent of any criteria or flaws, just as you would not reject a friend for having “imperfections.” Limitations, flaws, and imperfections are where we find room for connection, growth, and the formation of meaningful relationships. As an adult, you will often find yourself at the “edge of knowledge” where there are no clear answers, and you must rely on your own inner guidance and reasoning. Perfection is a concept that looks to the past, whereas true progress often requires breaking from the mold of what has been done before. The 80/20 rule suggests that trying to achieve 100% perfection often results in diminishing returns and is not worth the excessive effort. Your inner critic has few valid opinions and should be ignored, as true criticism must come from a place of appreciation and understanding. Perfectionism often stems from a sense of low self-worth, and recognizing your inherent human value can help you let go of this unrealistic standard. The goal should be to recognize where you are already doing well enough, rather than faulting yourself for falling short of an impossible ideal of perfection. Table of Contents: 00:00 – Intro 00:56 – You can only expect perfection in elementary tasks 03:31 – Perfection is unnatural 05:30 – Your favorite things aren’t perfect 07:44 – In most human endeavors, perfection isn’t necessary 08:33 – There is no such thing as a perfect animal or plant 10:40 – The rules for how we treat life are different from the rules for how we treat objects 12:40 – Our lack of perfection, our “scratches,” are where practices of healing, friendship, and community take place 16:01 – Imperfection, or deviation from the model, is the only way to make something yours 25:23 – Perfectionism erases individuality 25:59 – 80/20 rule 28:13 – Reframing your inner critic 32:40 – Perfectionism and low self-worth 36:13 – The way to overcome perfectionism 37:00 – Outro Listen above, on Apple Podcasts or on Spotify, or watch the full video on YouTube, free of third-party advertising. Remember to like, subscribe and share! The post How to Stop Being a Perfectionist (Ep. 19) appeared first on The Morpheus Clinic for Hypnosis.