How to Stop People-Pleasing (Ep. 21)

This episode is for all the recovering people-pleasers out there. If you feel like it’s hard to say “no” in an unfair situation, I’m going to give you a moral framework that lets you to speak your mind and simultaneously feel like the hero in the story of your life… at the same time! We start by recognizing the false morality instilled during childhood that suggests being agreeable equates to being a good person. We should prioritize authentic, truthful communication over merely saying “yes” to please others, because this shift is essential for personal growth and emotional well-being. The ‘fawning’ response is a common trauma reaction that leads you to please others at the expense of their own feelings and beliefs. We encourage you to view yourself as an equal to others, regardless of hierarchical positions, because everyone has a right to voice their thoughts and feelings. Self-respect and self-love are crucial for establishing healthy boundaries and asserting your needs guilt-free. Neglecting your own morality inevitably leads to feelings of anger and resentment. Treating yourself as an equal can influence how others perceive and treat you, promoting a healthier social dynamic. Self-love and respect do not diminish others’ happiness; instead, they contribute to a collective increase in well-being, because emotions are positive-sum. Asserting yourself and saying “no” when necessary is a civilized and mature response that fosters healthier relationships and personal integrity. Table of Contents: 00:00 – Intro 01:12 – “You’re only good if you say ‘yes,’ and bad if you say ‘no’” 02:57 – People-pleasing as a trauma response 04:12 – Neglecting your morality will lead to resentment 05:48 – The inequality of people-pleasing 09:38 – Your moral obligation to say ‘no’ 14:58 – You can still be a good person even when you’re rocking the boat 16:35 – Our heroes say ‘no’ all of the time 18:17 – We are all living in your world, too 23:29 – Ceasing to people-please doesn’t make you a jerk 29:26 – Put your own oxygen mask on first 30:53 – Why I don’t trust people-pleasers 33:32 – A wolf that does not defend itself is demoralized or sick 34:35 – Outro Listen above, on Apple Podcasts or on Spotify, or watch the full video on YouTube, free of third-party advertising. Remember to like, subscribe and share! The post How to Stop People-Pleasing (Ep. 21) appeared first on The Morpheus Clinic for Hypnosis.