I No Longer Want A Man of God

I want to talk about something that might challenge what many of us were taught to desire.For a long time, women were told to want a man of God. That language shaped entire generations of dating expectations, marriage goals, and spiritual identity.I spent eighteen years married to a senior pastor. I have spent most of my adult life around men who carried that title.After my divorce, when I entered dating with healing and boundaries, I was surprised by what I encountered. Many men who identified as men of God led with lust, spiritual language without emotional maturity, and entitlement masked as calling.That experience led me to ask deeper questions. Who taught me to desire this idea? Where is God in my pursuit of this title? And does this concept actually hold up in real life?I am not saying there are no good men. There are incredible men who love God deeply, love their wives, love their families, and live with integrity. I am not speaking about them.What I am questioning is the ideal itself. Much of it was shaped by men on stages teaching women to want someone like them. But ideals that are rarely embodied should be examined.I do not desire a title. I desire evidence. Character. Consistency. Kindness. Responsibility. A relationship with God that shows up in how someone lives.This season is asking many of us to stop repeating what we were taught and start testing what is true.