Is it ADHD or am I just a complete control freak?

from ADHD or life? - A couples perspective! · host Adam and Donna

Send us Fan MailNew episode out now on ADHD or Life – A Couple’s Perspective 🎙️ This week Adam’s got his clipboard back (yes, really) and we’re asking the big question: is this ADHD… or is Adam just a full-blown control freak?We kick off with an update on Adam’s titration journey: more paperwork, more waiting, and the classic feeling of being stuck in the world’s slowest queue.Watch on YouTube (this episode):https://youtu.be/FXBZEFQBccsJoin the Facebook group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/adhdrelationshipsunfilteredWhat we cover in this episode:Does everything need to be perfect… or is it really fear of being judged?Work is where Adam’s control issues hit hardest: everything has to be perfect or “people will be talking about him”.Adam cannot cope with the responsibility of people management. He’s even given up jobs because he couldn’t handle the pressure. Is this ADHD, anxiety, perfectionism… or all of the above?Do recovery meetings help with accepting you can’t control what you can’t control?Sudden mood swings, stress spikes, and whether RSD plays a part.Donna asks the important question: why did Adam have zero control over the wedding… but wants control over everything else?Driving chat: is Adam’s driving really that bad? Can you stall a diesel car? Is insisting on driving everywhere a control thing?A couple’s perspective: Adam’s control is fear-based, and Donna’s version is more like “I’ll just do it myself because it’s easier.”Donna hates “work Adam”. We talk about the time Adam took a tantrum at a party because Donna burnt the popcorn. Was he out of order?We’ve discovered Adam can’t be a boss. We genuinely want to know: how do people with ADHD manage being a boss? Send your tips!Plot twist: Adam has zero control at home. Same brain, different costume.Reputation, all-or-nothing thinking, and “if I can’t do it properly, I won’t do it.”“I would phone a man.” (Also turns out Adam wasn’t a great DJ… we unpack that too.)Work Adam = control freak. Home Adam = couldn’t be more laid back. Make it make sense.5 Minute Moans:Donna goes mad about bin bags (and honestly, fair).Adam makes an apology over wedding pictures.We finish with listeners’ good, bad and ugly stories, and this week medication comes into the conversation too. We’re so grateful for the stories you send in — keep them coming.#ADHDPodcast #AdultADHD #ADHDUK #ADHDAndAnxiety #ADHDPerfectionism #Perfectionism #PeoplePleasing #RSD #RejectionSensitiveDysphoria #ControlFreak #MentalHealth #ADHDRelationships #NeurodiverseCouples #ExecutiveDysfunction #Overthinking #Procrastination #AllOrNothingThinking #ADHDAtWork #WorkStress #PeopleManagement #ADHDMedication #Titration #RealLifeADHD #CouplesPodcast #Neurodiversity #Neurodivergent #ParentingWithADHDTune in every week for more conversations and revelations! Send your good, bad and ugly stories to [email protected]. Like and Subscribe to see our faces here: http://www.youtube.com/@ADHDorLifepodFollow us on Tik Tok for extra snippits and more: https://www.tiktok.com/@adhdorlifepodFollow us on Instagram for up to date info: https://www.instagram.com/adhdorlifepod/