Is it ADHD or Is It Anxiety?

from ADHD or life? - A couples perspective! · host Adam and Donna

Send us Fan Mail(Final episode of 2025… and we’re going out strong.)New episode out now! 🎙️ This week, Adam and Donna tackle a big one: anxiety — how it shows up, how it overlaps with ADHD, and how it can look totally different depending on what’s going on in your brain (and your life).It’s the final episode of 2025, and we’re wrapping up the year with a proper real-life topic: Is it ADHD or Anxiety? We chat about taking some time off — we had a week off for the wedding, and we’ll also be off next week for one week (because life happens!). A bit of a check-in on accountability and social media, then we get straight into the main topic.ADHD + Anxiety (Adam’s flavour):The anxiety that comes from fear of forgetting (because forgetting isn’t just annoying — it can feel like a full-body panic).RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria) and how it can turn small moments into big spirals.The classic ADHD-anxiety combo: “I know I should do this… but I can’t.” And the guilt/anxiety that follows.Neuronormal Anxiety (Donna’s flavour):The mental load — carrying everything in your head and worrying what happens if you drop one ball.The worry of being “too much” — especially the fear of becoming a nag just to keep life moving.How anxiety shows up behaviourally (for both of us):Avoidance (if you don’t look at it, it doesn’t exist… right?)ShutdownIrritabilityOver-explaining (because if you can just explain it perfectly, maybe you’ll feel less anxious… maybe)5 Minute Moans:Donna’s getting fed up with Adam starting a conversation… then drifting off mid-way like he’s been teleported to another dimension.Adam’s request of the week: Donna, please stop calling him her “Husband”. (Yes, really.)We finish with our listener good, bad and ugly stories — and we’re genuinely grateful for every single one. Keep them coming, because they make this podcast what it is: real people, real life, and the stuff we all think we’re the only ones dealing with.Facebook group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/adhdrelationshipsunfilteredInstagram, Twitter/X, TikTok:@adhdorlifepodListen on Spotify:https://open.spotify.com/show/46i0iGiwmgvFrlOzoW2SnSWatch on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@ADHDorLifepodRead more on our website:https://www.adhdorlife.com#adHDPodcast #ADHDAndAnxiety #AnxietySymptoms #ADHDEmotionalRegulation #RejectionSensitiveDysphoria #RSDAndAnxiety #MentalLoad #MentalLoadInRelationships #NeurodiverseCouples #LivingWithADHD #ADHDAvoidance #ADHDShutdown #AnxietyInRelationships #ADHDOrLife #ADHDOrLifePodcast #ADHDUKPodcastTune in every week for more conversations and revelations! Send your good, bad and ugly stories to [email protected]. Like and Subscribe to see our faces here: http://www.youtube.com/@ADHDorLifepodFollow us on Tik Tok for extra snippits and more: https://www.tiktok.com/@adhdorlifepodFollow us on Instagram for up to date info: https://www.instagram.com/adhdorlifepod/