It's Not You. It's Breaking The Cycle.

Nicole didn’t just “grow up fast” she learned how to survive. From a childhood shaped by instability, addiction, and adult-sized responsibility, she became fiercely independent, resourceful, and determined to build a different life. That drive helped her work, graduate early, and take care of herself as a teen, but it also laid down a nervous-system blueprint that motherhood would later challenge in ways she never expected.We talk through the mindset shift from “I never want kids” to building a stable marriage and becoming a mom, then the part people rarely say out loud: how having adorable kids can still feel activating when your body remembers chaos. Nicole shares what it’s like when noise, sleep deprivation, and constant needs trigger old survival mode, plus the pressure of navigating diagnoses and fighting to give your kids every tool for a healthy childhood.We also get practical and real about coping. We touch on antidepressants, why drinking can quietly become a default in mom life, and the moment Nicole decided to stop so her kids wouldn’t grow up with the same patterns. A major turning point is EMDR therapy and doing the work to reprocess painful memories, soften triggers, and learn how to go with the flow instead of white-knuckling every day. We end with a reminder we both need: this hard season is temporary, and protecting your kids can also mean finally healing yourself.If this hits home, subscribe, share with a friend who needs the honesty, and leave a review so more moms can find Momcom. The content of this podcast is intended for informational and entertainment purposes only. We are not licensed therapists, doctors, or medical professionals, and we do not provide medical or mental health advice. Any opinions expressed are based on personal experience. Listeners should consult with a qualified healthcare provider or licensed professional for advice regarding their individual needs, diagnoses, or treatment.