JCIP #280 - Luke Loughlin & Lindsay Loughlin

In episode 280 of The Just Checking In Podcast we checked in with Luke Loughlin, and his sister Lindsay Loughlin. We first checked in with Luke in JCIP #244 where we discussed the story of men's mental health platform Men United, whom he was previously a co-founder of. We also discussed his own personal story of being diagnosed with ADHD and a learning difficulty, sexual abuse by a female perpetrator, addiction and suicidality. We then discussed his journey of recovery, using faith as a vehicle for it, getting sober and practicing sobriety, and working on his attachment style. All these positive steps have got him to where he is today. The missing part of the conversation around addiction in the mainstream, and it’s one we wanted to cover in this episode is the negative behaviours it causes addicts to do, and how the addicted person's loved ones handle those behaviours and find a path back to a healthy relationship, if that is possible.In this episode with Luke and Lindsay, we discuss their family upbringing and the values their parents instilled in them, the rough tides of Luke’s addiction and the sexual abuse he went through which fuelled the addiction. We then discuss the difficult decisions Lindsay and her family made to detach from Luke whilst he was in the throes of this addiction.We then explore the concept of forgiveness, how Luke forgave himself for his actions and understanding his abuse and how Lindsay felt when she discovered the abuse Luke had been going through and the context it provided for his actions and addiction.We then finish by discussing how Lindsay and his family forgave Luke and, together, found a path back to redemption, love and reaching the place they are now in their relationship. Since we checked in, Luke is now godfather to Lindsay’s son, Luke’s nephew and is giving back to his family and his community through his church, other avenues of positivity and will be starting his own new project in 2025 called 'The Inside Job Project'.The inspiration for the name is because, as Luke says, ‘recovery is an inside job. Change is an inside job’. Recovery only started for Luke when he got honest with himself, owned his shit and self-reflected to discover the trauma he had buried. Once he had done that, he started to produce a change inside that lead to outside changes in his life.As always, #itsokaytoventYou can follow Luke on social media below: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mentalhealthloughlin/You can listen to Part 1 of Luke's journey here: https://soundcloud.com/venthelpuk/jcip-244-luke-loughlinSupport Us:Patreon: www.patreon.com/venthelpukGoFundMe: www.gofundme.com/f/help-vent-supp…ir-mental-healthMerchandise: www.redbubble.com/people/VentUK/shopMusic: @patawawa - Strange: www.youtube.com/watch?v=d70wfeJSEvkTRIGGER WARNING: this podcast contains a brief discussion about sexual abuse, which some listeners may find extremely upsetting or distressing, so please listen with caution.Support Us:PatreonPayPalMerchandise