Jess's Story

Send us Fan MailHello, I’m Stacy, the host of Mothers, Lies and DNA Surprises Podcast. Thank you for being here.  Today Jess is sharing her story for the first time!  Jess shares the phrase, “Community is therapy” and that is so true for so many of us, within this community and so many others as you will learn.Many times within this community we talk about how important receiving medical information is for us when reaching out to our new families, Jess’s story is an example of the dangers for so many of us that don’t have one or both sides of our biological families medical histories…..Imagine being diagnosed with breast cancer not once but twice!  And your mother still doesn’t share your paternal truth!At age 39 Jess was first diagnosed with early stage breast cancer and again at age 44 with metastatic breast cancer, and still after these diagnosis her mother still chose to not share the truth about Jess’s parentage.  And later when Jess did a DNA test as part of the breast cancer study, she grew up believing she was 100% Ashkenazi Jew, she brought up her ethnic results with her mother, and once again her mother still didn’t tell her the truth.  While having an identity crisis, Jess will share how learning this truth caused her to grieve the loss of her Dad all over again!Finding community and therapy through her breast cancer journey helped her realize very quickly in her DNA surprise that she needed to find community and therapy again!How many of us commit to raising our children very differently then we were raised?  From a very early age we recognize this isn’t healthy or doesn’t feel good and decide we want better for our children.  Although I can speak for myself that I’ve made many mistakes along the way but I know I did do better and I hope my children do even better!Setting boundaries, taking care of yourself, and to not live your life for someone else….Jess offers some great advice for others going through this! Jess shows we can care for our mothers from afar, she makes sure her mother is well cared for by coordinating her needed care while also keeping her no contact boundary!Thank you Jess for sharing your story with all of us! Jess’s contact:Instagram – my_mindful_mbc_lifeFacebook – @my.mindful.mbc.lifeEmail - [email protected] Music is "Drown in your Lies" by NoxAwake via Pixabay