Judging versus Correcting

An episode of the WISDOM TOUCH podcast, hosted by Babalola Olamide, titled "Judging versus Correcting" was published on July 6, 2020 and runs 6 minutes.

July 6, 2020 ·6m · WISDOM TOUCH

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Summary

It’s never easy to be told we’re wrong, since we are emotional being. We are wired with raging emotions and so, we've got feelings! As a result of our human nature, I want to register that in correcting someone, it will be healthy to start with positive acknowledgement. No matter what, everything cannot be totally wrong with the person to correct. Seeing a bad attitude from a positive end and with a kind mind will give us a platform to approach the person on a friendly note. This often times make people to change their minds easily because we aren't all out to nail them to the cross. And thus, makes amend where necessary. When we are gentle in our approach, then it's not judging! I like you to know that gentleness and friendliness are bonds stronger than fury and force. Yelling in anger is not appropriate. Correcting someone publicly out of pride or the desire to embarrass them is simply an unruly behavior. Again, let's evaluate whether it's necessary for us to correct the person. If so, then correct politely. Our comments are more likely to be heard and taken to heart with all seriousness if only we are polite enough. It's just best not to correct someone when we are angry - It might cause us harm and possibly hurt the person as well. If we are putting the other person's feelings ahead of ours, we will know the right time, place and manner to correct. When we offer help then we aren't judging... Criticism without an action plan to make things better is worthless. Let's give people we are correcting direction on what they can do to be better and give our kind support, or else, our mouth should be shut! You aren't judging if only you can ask yourself this question: "Will my words bring enough ‘good’ to offset the embarrassment the other person will feel?" Only if the answer is yes should you proceed. Avoid being overly authoritative, confrontational, and closed-minded when giving correction(s). Many precious relationships had been destroyed because we judged than correcting the people we claim to love. Correction that will have the person thank you instead of resenting is appropriate. Let's take caution!