Knee Deep in De-Nesting

What happens when you love your partner but living together just isn’t working? Cady and Sharilyn dive into the concept of de-nesting — choosing to live apart while staying together — and how it can reshape what commitment looks like.Cady shares her personal story of de-nesting with her husband Navarre after nearly a decade of cohabitation, revealing what led to the decision, how neurodivergence played a role, and how they maintain connection and intimacy across two homes.Later, Navarre joins for a candid conversation about how de-nesting strengthened their marriage, improved communication, and reignited appreciation for intentional time together.In this episode:What “de-nesting” actually means (and how it’s not a breakup)How to know when it’s time to consider living separatelyThe intersection of neurodivergence, non-monogamy, and household dynamicsRedefining what “marriage” looks like outside of monogamy and cohabitationWhy intentionality beats proximity in long-term relationshipsMentioned in this episode:Couples therapy & communication practicesEmotional labor and household managementThe importance of chosen family and queer community🎧 Listen wherever you get your podcasts, and follow us on Instagram @kneedeeppodcast.Follow Us:Instagram: @KneeDeepPodcastTikTok: @KneeDeepPodcastCady: @ageofsexplorationSharilyn: @queerwomenspoetrycollectiveSupport Us on Patreon:Help us keep the conversation going by supporting us on Patreon! 🖤 Send Us Your Questions or Comments:We love hearing from you! Got a question or a topic you’d like us to cover? Email us at [email protected] for tuning in, and don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review!