Brought to you by Y Refi Refi, Refi and your defaulted private student loans today at Yrefi.com slash Ramsey. My fiance and I are getting married in a couple weeks and he is in the process of moving out of his home that he has been renting from one of his friends parents for the last three or so years. And there was a water leak that he noticed out of the outside of the house and so he told his landlord about it and basically it's turned into this big situation where like basically the entire bathroom has to get ripped out. And there was a small leak on the inside of the bathtub that like dripped into the bathtub and he hadn't said anything about that.
But then as soon as he saw the outside he said something what I'm getting at is now they want us to pay or they want him to pay the fifty nine hundred dollar deductible. And I the plumber said that the leak was inside the wall, not outside the wall. I'm sorry even if it's in safe and if it doesn't matter why is it your husband why is it the renters fault that the water leak. This is why you rent.
Okay. Thank you. I was feeling but if you're if your fiance did something that caused the leak or you know like had a I don't know a water bed or something and it got and they didn't you know they caused the mold or they caused the rot then is there even such thing as a water bed. I'm gonna say welcome back to the 90s with the future one.
Yeah but anyway if you had a cold plunge okay let's get back in it leaked okay something modern and he caused the mold or caused some rot that's the tenant damaging the property. You would be would be responsible for that but if if I want a property and I want a bunch of property and the water line breaks or has a leak in it that's not the tenants financial responsibility has there been a handshake deals like undermarket rent or something because of parents of a friend. Yes yes there was no like contract there was no big enough to get renters insurance and he had been paying like five hundred dollars and then seven hundred fifty dollars more recently and. So they're kind of coming at him not from legally but the kind of like hey bro be cool dude and give a $6,000 kind of like that right like yeah we let you live here for this amount but now you have to fix our house when it breaks.
Okay that's what I was feeling he's just that my fiance is just so wonderful and he thought because he had seen the leak on the inside that was dripping into the tub and had said something sooner that he felt he has some bit of responsibility. No he does not okay okay should we be I mean you have any recommendation on how to approach this conversation with them it's not by your hand but in your lap they've chosen to. Put the relationship on the table and so they severed the relationship and so there's not a way that you can eat no matter how nicely you say what you need to say which is no thank you or unable to pay or I'm not responsible for this I'm a tenant. They're still not with you did not cover me fixing your broken house because I got chimp rent okay thank you that I wasn't here and that's what I thought my mom had rental houses but this this felt way over the top and yeah he doesn't want to cover the relationship but I felt they've already they already did that.
Then they put a price tag on it's fifteen hundred bucks there you go okay but that's not the issue I mean so all you can do is be kind and smile and say gosh I'm so thankful for the rent but I did not sign up for doing all the repairs for your home that was not our agreement you were kind to me you're generous to me thank you for that but I am not I didn't know time and I'm getting married in two weeks no I can't I can't splurge out six thousand dollars I don't have it and it doesn't and I'm not responsible for it I'm so sorry I hope that doesn't upset you but if it does then that's that's your decision I guess. Okay thank you so much does that make sense yes that's exactly what my argument was and what I thought but I just might yeah my fiance is I maybe softer and I got to tell you I um I've been in a lot of situations like where we have a house and we want one of our rental houses in the lady got cancer and we let them live there for free while they're you know well cuz nobody's working in the house and it's just a horrible situation we were able to do that because the house is that free but we didn't come back at the end of that and say this this this this this right even if they had torn up something we made the decision to be generous grace. To extend grace to that family but then we didn't try to like take that back really yummy right and so that these people are strange is what I'm saying yeah well that's what I told my fiance because I was listening to offer years and I said you know this they treated it all these years like a gift and Dave has always said like if you're gonna give somebody something then you accept like you don't loan somebody something unless you're willing to gift it and like a family or something and so I I was telling him like if there if there is a handshake agreement was he does all the repairs and he keeps the house up then he should do the repairs but nowhere in the story have you said that. That correct that's not that's not the case there's a really fine line between he's so wonderful and spineless it's a really thin line yeah he needs to be very kind and extremely strong.
Yeah and what I had the other thing is that you know they're trying to say we've made all these concessions for you like you know what you live here for $500 when they've had the house full of storage and it's a paid off house yeah don't do that don't do that don't go don't go don't go don't go don't go don't go don't that matter stories no that matters all that matters is you gave me a deal thank you that was our deal our deal was not that I pay for the plumbing breaks. And I not only won't I not only can't but I won't I'm so sorry and if that makes you angry that really makes me sad but then that's your decision to be angry goodbye okay you Catherine don't sit there and spin up stories about yeah they use stories that is a choice for you to be miserable in the moment yeah and your fiance let them store stuff that was part of the deal because he didn't change it right if that went on for more than 30 seconds he went on with it so that you get a deal but I'm gonna store some stuff okay that you know if you don't object to that then you made the deal and going back to what Dave said earlier I love the way he said it he said it. Much more eloquently than me they have put a price tag on this relationship and it's about 6,000 bucks and it's not you guys violating some sort of bro code by they hooked you up and then if something goes wrong down the road they're gonna circle back and we always know because we're nice to you so you gotta be we don't have $6,000 we're gonna move on you know but they're the ones that violated the relationship kind of buns me out Dave I don't like that I'm just trying to think I mean you know what the problem is just can't just go to not the house is paid for but these people have no money probably and so they're struggling with $6,000 and before they knew it they got weird they might not even be weird people but they just just for a moment here when you get desperate you do some they lost their mind yeah that's rational they just got because they're talking about a newlywed couple getting married two weeks the first thing I want to do is present here's your wedding gift a bill for plumbing yeah I can imagine like a cancel I'm gonna help you with your rent and I'm gonna give you a way of cancel check for a bill for $6,000 who does that somebody's not thinking somebody's not thinking somebody's weird because that's just so strange the timing on the whole thing I mean oh man crazy crazy crazy crazy crazy crazy I'll be careful when you sign up for stuff and there's not an agreement hmm oh wait we didn't sign up for stuff yeah be careful when there's no agreement this is the Ramsey show why refi refinances delinquent private student loans for struggling borrowers learn more at yrefy.com slash Ramsey