Myranda's NPE Story

Send us Fan MailHello, I’m Stacy, the host of Mothers, Lies and DNA Surprises Podcast. Thank you for being here.  Today I am sharing Myranda’s story and our conversation!  Myranda shares with us how her relationship with her mother from a very early age was a struggle, that majority of her childhood was spent with her maternal grandparents. And how harsh some of her mother’s words were to her as a child.You know, one thing I hear from almost everyone I speak to, and Myranda said the same thing, is…..so many of us are not upset with the decisions our mothers made when we were conceived, most of us have so much compassion for our younger mothers….it’s how they handle things when we find out, when the truth finally comes out, that’s where so much hurt and anger come from.One week before her DNA results came back she was working on her relationship with her mom, was on a walk with her and her stepfather she even joked about the results….giving her mother another opportunity to tell the truth.  Here is where I will add a suggestion for anyone who is out there and holding onto this truth from a child….TELL THEM, tell them before they find out through a DNA test, that pain is very very difficult to come back from.  Being upfront and honest, when you know the truth is about to come out really does make a difference to those of us finding out our truths.  We would rather hear it directly from our parent then a 3rd party! Myranda will share how she reached out to her mother to tell her she found out about who her biological father was, her mom actually apologized, said how sorry she was-so many of us believe if our mothers could only apologize it would make such a difference in how our relationship moves forward but as you will hear, Myranda’s relationship with her mother continued to deteriorate. Myranda also talks about self-care ideas and learning to not abandon herself through this journey, this is a huge message for all of us, don't lose yourself for the sake of others!  Be there with yourself and for yourself through the whole process!  This is great advice! The quote that Myranda references in our conversation is - “Every time you’re given a choice between disappointing someone else and disappointing yourself, your duty is to disappoint that someone else. Your job, throughout your entire life, is to disappoint as many people as it takes to avoid disappointing yourself.” Glennon Doyle, Untamed *Trigger warning-Myranda’s story includes some harsh phrases that may be inappropriate for younger children or possibly offensive to some.Thank you Myranda for being so very vulnerable and sharing your story with us!Myranda’s DNA Suprises Podcast episode link:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/myrandas-dna-surprise/id1598395367?i=1000747862231 Music is "Drown in your Lies" by NoxAwake via Pixabay