Naming The Wounds We Carry From Home

Send a message or voice memoWhat if love taught you to hide your feelings? We open a gentle, unflinching conversation about shame that didn’t come from strangers, but from the people who fed us, raised us, and wanted us safe. As first-gen daughters, many of us learned to be responsible before we learned to be seen. Strength helped us survive, yet it also trained our nervous systems to brace, appease, and go numb. Here, we name the wound and trace how “you’re too sensitive,” “be grateful,” and “don’t get your hopes up” script adulthood in quiet ways.I share personal stories from a Latino household where rest was earned, emotions were suspect, and boundaries blurred. We explore how caregivers’ depression, fear, and unprocessed grief can minimize joy and punish growth—and why intention never erases impact. Then we map the adult patterns this creates: people pleasing that erases no, hyperindependence that refuses help, emotional numbing that outruns feeling, over-explaining choices, the chronic fear of disappointing others, and the inner critic that sounds like a parent’s voice.Together we practice tools that start with the body: four-count breathing to downshift activation, cold water resets, and stepping away before responding. With steadier ground, we try simple scripts—“I know you mean well, but that hurt”—and the nonverbal calm that protects connection. We build internal boundaries, like not taking counsel on wounds from those who haven’t healed theirs, and we release the need for validation from people who can’t meet us emotionally. Finally, we close with repair rituals—journaling, grounding, crying, movement, and kinder self-talk—that help shame lose its grip and let love and safety share space.If this speaks to your story, hit play and take what you need. Subscribe, share with someone who needs language for their feelings, and leave a review telling us which pattern you’re ready to change.Support the show✨ Be the first to know: My email list gets early access to readings, limited offers, and everything before it goes public. Join here + receive your Raíz Reset Checklist. Email: [email protected] Follow Dora on Instagram @dpraxedisCheck out the website: www.dorapraxedis.com