NEW PODCAST > IDEA #1: Step up, shoulders squared
Promised you 7 Ideas for Life: An Antidote to Polarity Well, here is Idea # 1: Step up, shoulders squared. - To step up, with your shoulders squared, is to accept that there are people in the world who want you on their side of a polarized issue.
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04/15/2018
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YOU ARE TIRED of people taking rigid, either-or positions. You are weary of people feeding polarities. You are angry at those why try to manipulate you, to get you on their side of an issue. And, you want to do something about it. That awareness, that first step, is the biggest one. I promised to share 7 Ideas for Life: An Antidote to Polarity. So, here goes. Rebuilding the centre between polarities starts with this; the first idea: “Step up, with your shoulders squared.” Biology matters. You may have heard of Jordan Peterson and his new book, 12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos. Peterson’s first rule is the ‘lobster rule’. It’s a biology lesson. Lobsters it seems, are born with complex defensive and aggressive behaviours. If a lobster loses a fight for territory with a bigger, stronger lobster it can’t then afford to look threatened, hurt, anxious or weak. It risks becoming an easy target for larger lobsters. It’s a good idea to start here too, when we’re thinking about polarity. How so? Well, biology matters. We are predisposed to see the world in dichotomies. Good vs. evil. Right vs. wrong. Left vs. right. We have an inbuilt and powerful disposition toward duality. Acculturation on top of the biology magnifies this– masculine vs. feminine and east vs. west, for example. In politics, we have an image of a left-right political scale firmly lodged and constantly referenced in our unconscious brains. I’m not letting anyone off the hook here, or out of the lobster trap. Predisposed does not mean doomed. But there are biological and cultural reasons to explain why we see polarities. This is a constructive starting place. Once we know that we are prone to this and that, we can pre-empt falling into being victims, or being chronically stuck picking one side or the other. It’s crucial to recognize and to know that our brains are more than capable of handling contradictory value systems and contradictory points of view. Knowing this, you can intentionally step in, with your shoulders squared. You can choose to engage beyond polarities. You are not going to wade into every polarity that crosses your path. But like the bystander in the bullying scenario, you can decide when it’s necessary for you to roll up your sleeves and step in. And yes, this requires confidence. In a world where we talk about a need for courage, the need to be vulnerable, it’s easy to just assume confidence. It’s easy to say ‘just do it’. I don’t think we can assume confidence in everyone. It’s not a given. It’s a choice and it’s a practice. Stepping in, with your shoulders squared is a starting point. Like in yoga. It’s grounding, declaratory. Feeding victimhood. How do you show up knowing this? Knowing that you and those you connect with are prone to, but not predestined, to polarizing? I wouldn’t suggest it, but you could see others as victims. Helpless, defenseless victims, as we saw recently at Wilfrid Laurier University. Where, last fall, a teaching assistant was disciplined for sharing a Jordan Peterson video with her students. Why was she disciplined? Some believed the post-secondary students she was showing the video to weren’t ready to handle controversial opinions. Hard to believe. My recommendation? Help others learn to respect themselves, to think for themselves. Self-respect. Arm students to see their self-worth; to understand when they were being cast as victims. Teach others to take responsibility for their own thoughts and more importantly for their own lives. For 8 years, between 2001 and 2009, I had the privilege of leading professional training teams to the country of Yemen. We educated and mentored female leaders in local communities there– doctors, nurses, midwives, lawyers, journalists.
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