New Year, No Resolutions

In this episode, we push back hard against New Year’s resolutions and unpack why they so often leave us feeling guilty, frustrated, and stuck. Instead, we talk through the idea of yearly themes—a gentler, more flexible way to guide growth without the pressure of pass/fail goals. We reflect on our past themes, share what worked (and what didn’t), and introduce our themes for 2026: a year of peace and the year of gentle refinement. Along the way, we dig into anxiety, sleep, routines, and why progress is never linear—and that’s actually the point.Show NotesWe open by talking about being together in person over the holidays, unseasonably warm winter weather, and how strange it feels to see green grass in December.We reflect on how climate shifts, lack of snowpack, and wildfire smoke have become an unsettling “new normal.”As the year wraps up, we explain why we are firmly opposed to traditional New Year’s resolutions.They tend to be overly ambitious.They focus on failure and guilt rather than growth.They encourage all-or-nothing thinking.We talk about how resolutions often repeat year after year, reinforcing a cycle of disappointment instead of progress.We introduce the idea of yearly themes, inspired by the Cortex podcast’s approach.Themes guide decisions instead of dictating outcomes.You can’t “fail” a theme.Themes allow for flexibility, reassessment, and course-altering without shame.We discuss how progress actually works:Growth isn’t linear.Life looks more like a sine wave than a straight upward line.The goal is to slowly shift the baseline over time.Aubrey reflects on last year’s theme—essentially survival—and why graduating, moving, and starting a new life counts as success.Peter shares past themes:The Year of Growth (too broad)The Year of Conscious Action (more effective and grounded)Aubrey introduces her 2026 theme: A Year of PeaceFocused on managing anxiety rather than “fixing” it.Centered on inner calm, not external control.Anchored in sleep, movement, mindfulness, and basic needs.We talk about anxiety as something often self-generated through imagined scenarios—and how peace is about changing our response.Peter introduces his 2026 theme: The Year of Gentle RefinementA rejection of “optimization” as a harsh, weaponized concept.Focused on small, monthly refinements rather than big overhauls.Closely aligned with learning, workflows, and creative projects.We discuss embracing failure as information, not judgment.Sleep becomes a major focus:Refining nighttime routines.Consistent wake times.Circadian rhythm basics.Aubrey shares practical strategies for anxiety management:Walking meditations.Getting sunlight early in the day.Her “first aid kit for anxiety” (drink water, eat, go to the bathroom).We close by emphasizing that themes only need to work for you—there’s no universal right answer.