Picking a donor & getting pregnant

In this episode, I talk about one of the biggest and strangest parts of the fertility journey, choosing a donor, starting IUI treatment, and what it actually took for us to finally get pregnant. I share what the donor selection process really looked like behind the scenes, from reading letters and hearing donor voice notes to navigating the emotional weight of choosing someone who will always be part of our future child’s story. I also open up about moving forward with IUI as a non-binary person: the scans, hormone injections, trigger shots, pessaries, ovulation tracking, and the complicated relationship between fertility treatment, gender, and identity. After six rounds of IUI, countless appointments, negative tests, medication, stress, and emotional exhaustion, this episode follows the reality of trying to conceive when hope and heartbreak start living side by side. And finally, the moment everything changed: the positive test that made all of it feel real.