Real Leaders Aren't Fake

If you want to be successful, you have to fake it till you make it a little, right? Maybe not. This episode explains why this traditional approach no longer fits in modern business culture, and why it’s not a good way for Christian business people to get ahead.

Timestamps:

[00:05] - Intro

[00:36] - What we mean by “fake it till you make it”--and the science that backs it up

[01:38] - Why “fake it till you make it” is risky

[02:59] - The real question isn’t whether faking it works, but rather whether you should in the sense of values and ethics.

[03:51] - You cannot hide the truth of what you are or know from God.

[04:18] - Your coworkers are not who you must face on Judgment Day.

[04:41] - A better approach than faking it 

[06:10] - The spotlight effect--an example from HBO Max on why you shouldn’t worry

[07:56] - Prayer

[8:42] - Outro/what’s coming up

[09:17] - Postroll CTA

Key takeaways:

• “Fake it ‘til you make it” has some potential benefits, and there’s some research to back it up. But it’s a risky approach because you can lose everything if people discover you’ve manipulated them.
• “Fake it ‘til you make it” usually depends on lying, and scripture is clear that God wants you to speak truthfully.
• You cannot hide who you are from God. Because He is the one you will face on Judgment Day, it’s better to worry about what He wants than to be dishonest in an attempt to fit in and please others.
• Many people overestimate how much others will notice or punish them. This is part of the Spotlight Effect. Real-world examples show that people can be much more compassionate and empathetic than you might expect them to be.
• If you are anxious about what others will think of you or have fear, you should give that to God and ask Him for courage, rather than presenting a fake picture of who you are.

Relevant Links:

What is Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT)?

Nonverbal Communication and Body Language

The Spotlight Effect

Twitter Feed: HBOMaxHelp

Why it’s time to end the toxic culture of ‘fake it till you make it’ 

CTAs:

• Ask people for feedback. Be honest and go to God when you are anxious or unsure, having faith that He will give you the courage you need and confidence that He will have your back.
• Head on over to Patreon.com/FaithfulOnTheClock to become a supporting member for the show. 

What's coming up next:

God has a tendency to flip the script when it comes to class and expectations. Episode 5 of Faithful on the Clock explains how God can do this for you, and how you can be happy no matter what job or role you might have.