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EPISODE · Jan 26, 2026 · 15 MIN

Reckoning: When You Can't Avoid Yourself Anymore (Part 1)

from Can I Have a Word? | Culture, Identity & the Power of Language

I used to believe you could control what parts of yourself were allowed to change. That growth could be selective, strategic, and contained. For most of my life, I knew how to keep things separate and still succeed. But then it stopped working.When you begin to explore yourself - your beliefs, your norms, what you inherited versus what you're choosing - eventually everything becomes fair game. There comes a moment when avoiding parts of yourself is no longer a viable way to live.This is Part 1 of a two-part story - two episodes, two words - tracking what happens when the life you've carefully separated starts demanding to be integrated. The realization that compartmentalization isn't protection - it's postponement. Unfortunately, you rarely get the luxury of feeling "ready" before the walls come down.Sometimes you have to cross borders - literally and figuratively - to learn it's time to settle the accounts within your own life. And in Part 2, a second word takes the story somewhere I didn't expect.Production TeamHost/Creator - Carl JamesLead Engineer - Josh WilcoxEditor - Walter NordquistLogo Design - Stephanie CardenasMusic - Yennaedo Balloo Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I used to believe you could control what parts of yourself were allowed to change. That growth could be selective, strategic, and contained. For most of my life, I knew how to keep things separate and still succeed. But then it stopped working.When you begin to explore yourself - your beliefs, your norms, what you inherited versus what you're choosing - eventually everything becomes fair game. There comes a moment when avoiding parts of yourself is no longer a viable way to live.This is Part 1 of a two-part story - two episodes, two words - tracking what happens when the life you've carefully separated starts demanding to be integrated. The realization that compartmentalization isn't protection - it's postponement. Unfortunately, you rarely get the luxury of feeling "ready" before the walls come down.Sometimes you have to cross borders - literally and figuratively - to learn it's time to settle the accounts within your own life. And in Part 2, a second word takes the story somewhere I didn't expect.Production TeamHost/Creator - Carl JamesLead Engineer - Josh WilcoxEditor - Walter NordquistLogo Design - Stephanie CardenasMusic - Yennaedo Balloo Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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