Relationships and Purpose

Welcome to the Jenni Carroll Perspective. Today’s episode is about our most important relationships - that is to say our romantic relationships. We will discuss the purpose of love and the hidden reasons we form a bond with that very important person in our lives. By the end of this episode, you may be thinking about your partner or spouse in a slightly different way. 

There is no doubt that relationships are the boot camp of life. While everyone’s earth school curriculum is slightly different, for the vast majority of us, it is the relationships we have with other people that create our biggest sources of frustration, insecurity, vulnerability and pain. The good news is that it is meant to be this way. Relationships are not meant to be easy. Instead, they are meant to teach us about ourselves. Relationships serve as a stage for personal growth and healing. 

The problems we have in our relationships come from the personal narratives (the stories inside our head) that project our insecurities, guilt, and judgement of ourselves onto our partner. It is so incredibly powerful to begin to understand that everything we don’t like about our spouse is within our power to change. While we can’t change their behavior, we can change our perspective and decide how much (or how little) all of it will affect us.

If we look at our relationships with others from a bigger perspective, we realize that they are not really based on needs but rather on purpose. The purpose is our mutual growth and healing.

If you are struggling in your marriage or another significant relationship in your life, rest assured that everything is present for a reason. This reason represents an aspect of your purpose. You have the responsibility, strength, ability and the power to address whatever unhappy issues you are facing and find healing and peace.

There are two important ideas to consider. First, we must understand that any romantic relationship and certainly life-long partnerships are meant to be challenging. Whatever we may think, their true purpose is serving as a catalyst to teach us about ourselves, in good ways, but more importantly in ways that will force us to look at where we lack and encourage us to heal, becoming better, greater, closer to our truest selves. When we see our relationships through this lens, we begin to understand our frustrations and our pain in a different way. 

Secondly, we need to understand that our NEED for this type of relationship is a fallacy. If you are someone who carries a lot of pain and struggle around finding a relationship, or if you are someone who is in a marriage or long-term relationship and feels unhappy, trapped or unloved, know that you are already enough. Whether you find someone to share life with, continue to share life with or instead navigate life all on your own, you are and will continue to be whole.

You are light and you are love.

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