self-sabotage, shadow work, and the emotional rollercoaster of trying to do it all

Episode 7:fall off… get back on!Timestamps & Takeaways(00:00:00) – IntroTakeaway: Sometimes we drop off — and that’s okay. Let’s explore why, and how to return without shame.(00:00:40) – Why I Fell OffTakeaway: Just because you were gaining consistency doesn’t mean a system is fully built. Early-stage routines still require full energy.(00:02:20) – The Plane MetaphorTakeaway: Honor the energy it takes to get something in the air. Don't assume cruising altitude too soon.(00:03:18) – The Realization: Self-Sabotage & Fear of PeaceTakeaway: Self-sabotage isn’t always loud. Sometimes it’s subtle: blowing up flow the moment it feels safe. Peace can be triggering if chaos is your baseline.(00:06:11) – The Work Shift ExperimentTakeaway: If ease and readiness feel unfamiliar, you may subconsciously chase the chaos your nervous system is used to. Awareness is step one.(00:07:40) – Faux Beginners & False StartsTakeaway: Mastery requires sustained engagement. Reinventing yourself repeatedly keeps you feeling productive, but delays actual progress.(00:08:40) – Let’s Reframe: Not a Crash — Just a FallTakeaway: Plane crash energy = guilt and perfectionism. Horsefall energy = human and recoverable. The story you tell yourself shapes your return.(00:09:40) – Final Thought: Just Put Your Foot in the StirrupTakeaway: Progress doesn’t require perfection. Just showing up, even clumsily, builds the momentum back.Practical Tips from This Episode* Respect the Takeoff Phase:Don’t add new projects while you're still finding flow with a current one. Let something hit cruising altitude first.* Do Shadow Work Regularly:Self-sabotage often hides in your subconscious. Patterns like fearing peace or craving chaos don’t go away just because you named them once.* Experiment Like a Coach:Even small tweaks — like getting ready earlier — can reveal huge behavioral insights.* Reframe the Fall:Instead of guilt-tripping over “falling off,” view it like falling off a horse: common, recoverable, even expected.* Start Small, But Start:Your comeback doesn’t need to be a grand rebrand or perfect post. Just one foot in the stirrup is enough. Get full access to It Girls Never Die at daniellecolada.substack.com/subscribe