Shame to Dignity

This episode explores the spiritual movement from shame to dignity within the LGBTQ experiences. Josh and Sarah Claire delve into the roots of shame, its impact on queer people, and how to overcome it. The conversation emphasizes finding dignity in God’s love and the role of vulnerability in personal growth. FootnotesChapter 1 | Introduction (00:00)1:14 | Grant Hartley, “S2E9 | Ashley, Grant, and Josh on Shame,” The Life on Side B Podcast, April 13, 2020, podcast audio. https://www.lifeonsideb.com/episodes/episode/1e3acc32/s2e9-or-ashley-grant-and-josh-on-shame 2:09 | Essence, interview by Josh Proctor, July 12, 2024.3:47 | Elijah Herral, “Casualties,” produced by Logan Murphy, Raccon Valley Records, 2024, SpotifyChapter 2 | Understanding Shame: Its Roots and Impact (4:44)4:55 | Alan Downs, The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World (Cambridge, MA: Da Capo Press, 2005).6:44 | Rich Villodas, The Deeply Formed Life: Spirituality That Shapes Our Lives and the World Around Us (Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Books, 2020).8:03 | Michael Hobbes, "The Epidemic of Gay Loneliness," Highline, March 2, 2017, https://highline.huffingtonpost.com/articles/en/gay-loneliness/.Chapter 3 | Coming Out & Compartmentalization (8:45)9:18 | Matthew Todd, Straight Jacket: Overcoming Society's Legacy of Gay Shame (London: Black Swan, 2018).Chapter 4 | Shame Management (14:40)14:55 | Christian Sexuality, “Christian Sexuality - Interview With Jay Stringer,” March 1, 2021, Youtube video, 4:16-4:54. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i3Erj8mfUug15:34 | Paradise Hymns, “Arrow,” written by Daniel Brunjes, 2020, Spotify16:12 | Jay Stringer, Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing (Colorado Springs: NavPress, 2018). 17:00 | Lin Melone, interview by Josh Proctor, July 29, 2024.Chapter 5 | Why The First Movement? (20:10)20:30 | Gregg Webb, "Ten Years," Eleison, November 23, 2019, https://eleisonblog.org/2019/11/23/ten-years/.Chapter 6 | Defining Dignity (23:21)23:32 | John 3:1624:00 | 1 John 4:1925:24 | Matthew 7:12 Chapter 7 | Self-Love And Finding Goodness in Queerness (30:00)30:00 | Elijah Herrel, “Not As Easy As It Seemed,” produced by Logan Murphy, Raccon Valley Records, 2024, Spotify.30:04 | James Empereur, Spiritual Direction and the Gay Person (London: Bloomsbury Academic, 1998).​30:31 | James Empereur, interview by Josh Proctor, September 15, 2022.34:49 | Eve Tushnet, Tenderness: A Gay Christian’s Guide to Unlearning Rejection and Experiencing God's Extravagant Love (Notre Dame, IN: Ave Maria Press, 2021).35:53 | James Empereur, Spiritual Direction and the Gay Person (London: Bloomsbury Academic, 1998).​Chapter 8 | The Power of Vulnerability (37:16)37:57 | Psalm 13939:57 - Brene Brown definition of vulnerability as emotional exposure without certainty (reference needed)40:47 - Brene Brown - vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage43:09 | Romans 2:4 Chapter 9 | Healthy and Unsafe Routes of Vulnerability (44:39)Chapter 10 | Spiritual Practices for Dignity (51:07)57:28 | 1 Corinthians 11:17-3459:02 | Matthew 5:23-24Chapter 11 | Supporting Someone Through Shame (61:13)61:13 | Paradise Hymns, “Near Again,” written by Daniel Brunjes, 2019, Spotify.62:00 | Josh Proctor, Holistic and Integrated Spiritual Formation of LGBT+ and Same-Sex Attracted Christians: Six Spiritual Movements That Lead Toward Wholeness as Spiritual and Sexual Beings with Specific Application to Sexual Minorities (DMin diss., Kairos University, July 2024). Chapter 12 | Credits (63:12)Read the full Research Document here.Special thanks to Zac Wagner for sound engineering support.`