The Closure No One Can Give You

For my coaching program, go to www.savannanoelle.com/comeback.I’ve always been a writer. As a teen I was the girl filling up the back pages of yearbooks, scribbling whole paragraphs, writing affirmations with the date inside the cover of a book before I gave it to someone. Writing has aways been where my voice goes when I don’t feel heard.So it makes sense that for most of my life, when a relationship ended badly, I reached for a letter, a text, an email, something. While it would’ve been decent and emotionally mature to be met with an actual conversation, often, the only way I’d finally get to have a conversation was this way.This week’s episode is about that. About closure. But it’s not the version you’ve heard a hundred times on TikTok, where closure is the silence, closure is them not choosing you, closure is no response. Those are for sure real.I’m talking about the closure of choosing a new behavior, of holding a higher standard.In this episode, I tell you about a breakup that gutted me, what it had in common with the one relationship I've never been able to write about, and the thing I finally understood that changed how I see closure now.And I get into the question I think actually matters when someone disappears on you. Not “what is wrong with him,” but “what is the standard I am willing to hold for myself?”Here’s what I continue to come back to:You want to get to the place where no matter what, you got you.The full episode is right here. Go listen. And as always, please share with a friend, like, and review on Apple and Spotify to help this podcast grow. I’m grateful.If you’re sitting in his silence right now, the not-knowing, the spiraling, the checking your phone for the hundredth time, I made something for you. It’s a free 10-minute audio called “When He Goes Silent.” You can grab it here: savannanoelle.com/freeaudio.And if you’re tired of running this same pattern and you’re ready to actually come home to yourself, that’s the work I do one on one inside “Come Back to Yourself,” my 4-week intensive. www.savannanoelle.com/comeback.Remember, You’re amazing.Savanna Get full access to Savanna's Substack at savannanoelle.substack.com/subscribe