EPISODE · Jun 30, 2026 · 1H 3M
The Dangerous Side of Selflessness
from Not Saving It For Later - Guiding Women Through Divorce & Beyond · host Hannah Hembree Bell
Season 2 Episode 8: The Dangerous Side of SelflessnessFor years, Kimber Hardick did everything she thought she was supposed to do.She was a wife.A mother.A helper.A caretaker.The person everyone could count on.From the outside, her life looked successful.Inside, she was disappearing.In this deeply honest conversation, Hannah sits down with author, speaker, and educator Kimber Hardick to talk about the quiet way so many women lose themselves while taking care of everyone else.After more than 30 years of marriage, Kimber found herself confronting a question she had spent decades avoiding:Who am I when I'm not taking care of everyone else?Together, Hannah and Kimber unpack the stories women are taught about self-sacrifice, why so many of us confuse being needed with being valued, and how years of putting ourselves last can leave us feeling invisible in our own lives.They also explore one of the most powerful concepts Hannah has discussed on the podcast: the difference between feeling your emotions and feeding them.Because healing doesn't happen by pretending you're fine.It happens when you stop running from what you're feeling long enough to listen to what it's trying to teach you.Whether you're navigating divorce, rebuilding after heartbreak, struggling with your identity, or simply wondering where the woman you used to be went, this conversation is an invitation to stop waiting for "later" and start coming home to yourself.TIMESTAMPS00:00 – Meet Kimber Hardick03:45 – How women lose themselves inside marriage and motherhood08:20 – The belief that good women sacrifice themselves13:15 – Feeling invisible while appearing successful18:40 – Empty nesting, identity, and rediscovering yourself24:10 – The wake-up call that changed everything29:50 – What our children learn from our relationships34:30 – Boundaries, people-pleasing, and proving your worth40:15 – Why women stay longer than they want to44:40 – Feeling vs. feeding your emotions49:30 – The emotions wheel and emotional awareness53:20 – Avoidance, capacity, and learning to sit with discomfort56:30 – Why joy won't come until all emotions are welcome59:00 – Kimber's advice for women rebuilding their livesCONNECT WITH HANNAH⚖️ Hembree Bell Law FirmHelping women navigate divorce, custody, and life's next chapter.HembreeBell.com💛 Join the Free Women's CircleA supportive community for women rebuilding after divorce and major life transitions.MyConfidentDivorce.com/Circle✨ My Confident DivorceCourses, coaching, and resources to help you move through divorce with clarity and confidence.MyConfidentDivorce.comCONNECT WITH KIMBER HARDICK📱 Instagram@KimberLivingLife📱 Facebookhttps://www.facebook.com/share/19EkV6N1od/?mibextid=wwXIfr🌐 WebsiteKimberHardick.comHer Skool Group https://www.skool.com/an-invitation-to-shine-9904/aboutThe Emotions Wheelhttps://kimberhardick.netlify.app/tools/emotion-wheelThe Workbookhttps://a.co/d/0gy8JkXK📖 BookAn Invitation to ShineIf this episode helped you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who needs to hear it.
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Season 2 Episode 8: The Dangerous Side of SelflessnessFor years, Kimber Hardick did everything she thought she was supposed to do.She was a wife.A mother.A helper.A caretaker.The person everyone could count on.From the outside, her life looked successful.Inside, she was disappearing.In this deeply honest conversation, Hannah sits down with author, speaker, and educator Kimber Hardick to talk about the quiet way so many women lose themselves while taking care of everyone else.After more than 30 years of marriage, Kimber found herself confronting a question she had spent decades avoiding:Who am I when I'm not taking care of everyone else?Together, Hannah and Kimber unpack the stories women are taught about self-sacrifice, why so many of us confuse being needed with being valued, and how years of putting ourselves last can leave us feeling invisible in our own lives.They also explore one of the most powerful concepts Hannah has discussed on the podcast: the difference between feeling your emotions and feeding them.Because healing doesn't happen by pretending you're fine.It happens when you stop running from what you're feeling long enough to listen to what it's trying to teach you.Whether you're navigating divorce, rebuilding after heartbreak, struggling with your identity, or simply wondering where the woman you used to be went, this conversation is an invitation to stop waiting for "later" and start coming home to yourself.TIMESTAMPS00:00 – Meet Kimber Hardick03:45 – How women lose themselves inside marriage and motherhood08:20 – The belief that good women sacrifice themselves13:15 – Feeling invisible while appearing successful18:40 – Empty nesting, identity, and rediscovering yourself24:10 – The wake-up call that changed everything29:50 – What our children learn from our relationships34:30 – Boundaries, people-pleasing, and proving your worth40:15 – Why women stay longer than they want to44:40 – Feeling vs. feeding your emotions49:30 – The emotions wheel and emotional awareness53:20 – Avoidance, capacity, and learning to sit with discomfort56:30 – Why joy won't come until all emotions are welcome59:00 – Kimber's advice for women rebuilding their livesCONNECT WITH HANNAH⚖️ Hembree Bell Law FirmHelping women navigate divorce, custody, and life's next chapter.HembreeBell.com💛 Join the Free Women's CircleA supportive community for women rebuilding after divorce and major life transitions.MyConfidentDivorce.com/Circle✨ My Confident DivorceCourses, coaching, and resources to help you move through divorce with clarity and confidence.MyConfidentDivorce.comCONNECT WITH KIMBER HARDICK📱 Instagram@KimberLivingLife📱 Facebookhttps://www.facebook.com/share/19EkV6N1od/?mibextid=wwXIfr🌐 WebsiteKimberHardick.comHer Skool Group https://www.skool.com/an-invitation-to-shine-9904/aboutThe Emotions Wheelhttps://kimberhardick.netlify.app/tools/emotion-wheelThe Workbookhttps://a.co/d/0gy8JkXK📖 BookAn Invitation to ShineIf this episode helped you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who needs to hear it.
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