The Divide Didn’t Start With Us: Black Love, Pain & the Path Back

We’ve all heard it:“Black men don’t protect Black women.”“Black women don’t respect Black men.”But what if I told you the tension between us didn’t start in the comments section — it started in policy, pain, and survival?In this powerful and vulnerable episode of The Vibes of a Village Podcast, I dig into the roots of the so-called “gender war” in the Black community — from mass incarceration and broken welfare systems to cultural expectations and emotional burnout.As a masculine-presenting lesbian, I’m sharing this from love and lived experience — because healing can’t happen if our LGBTQ+ voices are left out. This one’s for the whole village: Black men, Black women, queer folk, and everyone in between.Let’s talk submission, survival, softness, and the systems that divided us — and most importantly, how we get back to each other.