The Heavy weight of Shame & the power of self compassion.

“I should have known better.”Sounds responsible… doesn’t it?But most of the time, it’s not responsibility.It’s shame.And if you’re someone who:• replays small mistakes in your head• feels guilty over things other people would brush off• quietly wonders if you’re “not doing enough” as a parent, partner, or professional this episode is for you.As a GP and ADHD clinician, I see this pattern all the time.People aren’t just struggling with what’s happening, they’re struggling with what they tell themselves afterwards.And as a twin mum, I know this feeling personally.That moment where something small happen and it somehow becomes a judgement about you.In this episode of The Thoughtful Doctor, we think about:• the difference between guilt and shame• why your brain goes into self-attack mode• what’s actually happening in your nervous system• and how self-compassion isn’t “soft”, it’s biologicalIf you’ve ever felt like you’re being harder on yourself than anyone else would be, this might help you understand why. Listen now