Saying Yes to Everyone Is Costing You More Than You Think | Suzanne Weller on Connection

You love people. You love connecting them. But lately, your "superpower" of community building feels more like a drain than a gift. You not wanting to hide; you are a "Super-Connector" who has run out of burners on the stove.In this episode, Suzanne Weller, an unapologetic extrovert and master connector and community builder, reveals the surprising truth about connection burnout. It’s not about doing less; it’s about the "Inventory of Honesty." It's about energy management. It's about having the mindset to grow your personal development does not require over-extending yourself and not setting boundaries.We discuss why high performers often over-give to their communities, and how to tell the difference between a "generative" space that fuels you and a "draining" one that depletes you.If you feel like you're constantly holding space for others but have nothing left for yourself, this conversation offers a new framework. Learn how to treat your Time, Energy, and Attention as finite resources, and why saying "no" to some connections is the only way to say an authentic "yes" to the communities that matter.For Suzanne Weller, there’s something she’s learned to be even more important than reading other people which has helped her grow her superpower and her impact. As a leadership coach, a public speaker, a storyteller, a founder of her own consulting firm, and host of The Courage Effect podcast, she has a lot of experience being able to read people and rooms.But that is not the most valuable skill she’s learned as a connector and a community builder.In this episode, Suzanne answers the following questions:➡️How do I become a connector?➡️What makes someone a good connector?➡️How do I build a community?➡️How to build community when you feel isolated?My favorite quote from the episode: “It’s the trade-off idea. If you say ‘no,’ then you get to say ‘yes’ to something else. And if I say ‘yes’ to this, I have to say ‘no’ to something else.”  Suzanne is speaking to the need to find a balance in commitments and agreements, and how easy it is as an extrovert, a connector, and a community-builder to over-extend oneself. Even if it’s a superpower, operating out of balance is the fast lane to burnout.Resources mentioned in the episode: ▶️Suzanne’s company Weller Collaboration▶️Suzanne’s LinkedIn▶️Podcast: The Courage Effect  ▶️Book: “The Lion Women of Tehran" by Marjan KamaliMusic in this episode by Ian Kastner."What Do You Know To Be True?" is an invitation to be inspired to become more of your possible self by discovering your superpower, unlocking your potential, and creating your impact in the world.This podcast is for people leaders, coaches, org development practitioners, and anyone who works with people who want to be inspired to discover their superpower, unlock their possibilities, and make meaningful impact in the world."What Do You Know To Be True?" is hosted by Roger Kastner, is a production of Three Blue Pens, and is recorded on the ancestral lands of the Duwamish and Suquamish people. To discover the ancestral lands of the indigenous people whose land you may be on, go to: https://native-land.ca/Keywords #PeoplePleasing #HowToSayNo #Burnout #mentalhealth #howtostoppeoplepleasing #relationships