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EPISODE · Mar 10, 2025 · 2H 27M

The Public Speaking Expert: This Speaking Mistake Makes People Ignore You! These Small Mistakes Make You Unlikeable!

from The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett · host The Experience Plus

Speaking with confidence isn’t a gift, it’s a skill - Vinh Giang reveals the blueprint to mastering the art of communicationVinh Giang is an award-winning entrepreneur, part-magician, and full time communication coach. He runs masterclasses and has helped thousands of people improve their communication and vocal skills.In this conversation, Vinh and Steven discuss topics such as, the top speaking mistake that makes people ignore you, small mistakes that make you unlikeable, how to effortlessly speak with power and confidence, and the number one word to avoid to be taken seriously.00:00 Intro02:15 Why Do You Do What You Do?04:12 How Much Will This Information Change Your Life?06:28 The Importance of Communication in Your Life and Career09:17 How Easy Is It to Make a Radical Change in Your Communication Skills?10:57 What's the Biggest Change People Experience?11:56 How Cracking Your Communication Will Change Your Life12:59 Why Should People Listen to You?18:47 Three Ways to Change How You're Perceived by Others20:28 What Is Vocal Image and How Does It Help Us?23:00 How Melody Evokes Emotions27:31 How to Know If You're Overdoing It30:55 The Importance of Pauses in Your Speech35:03 What Volume of Voice Signals Confidence?36:46 Create Emotion With Your Voice37:25 Gesticulating With Your Face41:31 The Storytelling Formula43:56 VAKS: Relive a Story, Don't Report It!47:22 Run These Techniques in the Real World50:30 Is There a Voice Tone That Makes People Dislike You?52:59 Practical Steps to Know If You're Good at Speaking57:34 Remove the Clutter Words From Your Speaking1:02:37 Ads1:03:33 What to Do Before You Go on Stage1:05:20 Warm Up Your Mouth and Tongue1:06:20 The Power of Body Language1:13:34 If You Want to Be Influential, You Need to Do This1:14:32 How to Interact Online1:19:45 Our Identity Stops Us From Growing1:21:37 Accents and How to Correct Them1:25:06 There Are No Limits to What You Can Do1:29:21 How to Deal With Bullies1:33:27 How to Start a Powerful Conversation With Someone1:37:53 Ads1:39:57 Small Talk1:42:18 What to Do If People Interrupt You at Work?1:44:58 Why You Should Mimic People's Body Language1:46:20 What Is F-O-R-D? Holding Conversations for Longer1:52:15 Are There Real Introverts and Extroverts?1:53:13 Social Anxiety1:55:19 Contextual Confidence2:01:39 I Do It All for My Son2:04:57 My Parents Gave Up Their Money to Become Monks2:11:37 The Endless Pursuit of More2:20:23 What Is One Thing You Know Is True Even If You Can't Prove It?Follow Vinh:Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/gTz0zXL4xRb YouTube - https://g2ul0.app.link/gTL4XuN4xRb Website - https://g2ul0.app.link/owpA9uP4xRb Vinh’s Free Communication Resources -  https://gifts.vinhgiang.com/doac Watch the episodes on Youtube - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACEpisodes My new book! 'The 33 Laws Of Business & Life' is out now - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACBook Get your hands on the Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards here: https://bit.ly/conversationcards-mpFollow me:https://g2ul0.app.link/gnGqL4IsKKbSponsors:Shopify - https://shopify.com/bartlettPerfectTed - https://www.perfectted.com with code DIARY40 for 40% offWHOOP - https://JOIN.WHOOP.COM/CEOLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit theexperienceplus.substack.com

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You have this ability to become confident in every single area of your life. It's about us just learning a new series of behaviors. For example, there's something called a siren technique. In three, two, and one, I eat those.

I'm crazier than usual. Fantastic, that's fantastic. You did a great job, right? And then this next one is volume.

So critical. Because if I just increase my volume in my talk like this, I sound a little bit aggressive, don't I? But with volume, to highlight something, you could go very quiet. So it's about waking people up to the power of their lives.

And we all have access to these talks. Let's go through all five. Vin Jay is the award-winning speaker and communication expert who helps people enhance the power of their voice and body language in all areas of their life. I find it incredibly fascinating that when we look at the back end of Spotify and Apple on our audio channels, the majority of people that watch this podcast haven't yet hit the follow button or the subscribe button, wherever you're listening to this.

I would like to make a deal with you. If you could do me a huge favor and hit that subscribe button, I will work tirelessly from now until forever to make the show better and better and better and better. I can't tell you how much it helps when you hit that subscribe button. The show gets bigger, which means we can expand the production, bring in all the guests you want to see and continue to do this thing we love.

If you could do me that small favor and hit the follow button, wherever you're listening to this, that would mean the world to me. That is the only favor I will ever ask you. Thank you so much for your time. Back to this episode.

If you had to summarize what it is you do fundamentally and why you do it, how would you summarize it? I help people learn that they have access to one of the most beautiful instruments in the world that can help them negotiate whatever reality they desire. And I learned this through my first ever vocal teacher, Ms. Stanley.

I'll never forget this experience. There's a dingy music corner in South Australia and I'll go there for lessons. And for the first time I met her, I walked into the room, she's an old lady, and she says nothing to me except the words, sit down, young man. So I sit, it feels super awkward, it feels super weird.

And then she plays one key nonstop on the piano for two minutes. It's literally, I was like, oh shit, this is like a horror movie. And then she turns around, she goes, how do you feel? I said, nothing weird, awkward, what?

And then she goes, good, turns around, plays this beautiful song called Mariage D'Amour. Goes off for two minutes. And then she turns around, she goes, how do you feel? And I said, weirded out from before still.

But I feel, wow, that song had love, there was lust, there was romance, there was excitement. And she goes, good. Honey, most people go through life speaking like this. I'm going to teach you how to speak like this.

And that's, to me, at the time I remember thinking, that is the greatest sales pitch I've ever heard in my life. Because I'm now going to sign up for 12 classes with you, because you've just helped me realize something I've been struggling with my entire life. I haven't been thinking about my voice as an instrument. I thought it was a tool.

What do you do with a hammer? You use a hammer. What do you do with a screwdriver? You use a screwdriver.

What do you do with a piano? You play with it. What do you do with the violin? You play with it.

And she started to teach me that I have this instrument that depending on how I play it, it changes and shifts how others feel. How much do you think that will change the trajectory of someone's life? What is the impact? If I get really good at communication, why does it matter?

I was invisible my entire childhood. I was invisible. I wasn't the cool kid. I wasn't the good looking kid.

I wasn't the charismatic kid. I wasn't the funny kid. I wasn't the anything kid. And by learning the skill, I've been able to negotiate an incredible reality.

And that's why I love to infer us quite so much. Reality is negotiable. Cool. Well, what skill do we use to negotiate the reality of the desire?

It's our ability to communicate. Teaching that to others has been one of the most fulfilling things I've ever done. And I genuinely believe that makes the world a better place. And I almost sometimes feel like I'm just here to tune pianos.

I'm here to help people tune and fix and learn how to play. And I get so much fulfillment from that. My parents have this fundamental belief. It's so beautiful.

They believe every child is born with a diamond, with a gift, with something in them. So I found one of my diamonds early on. It was magic. So I was really good at magic.

They hoped it was medicine, accounting, and, you know, the Asian prophecy. So when I found that diamond being magic, I thought that all I had to do was get really good technically as a magician. Because that's what I was talking about university being an accountant. Oh, if you become really technically proficient as an accountant, you'll become an amazing accountant.

You'll be successful. You'll get the BMW. You'll get everything. So I thought, okay, magic's the same thing.

Get really good technically. Send thousands of hours in my bedroom by myself, in front of a mirror, practicing magic. Not nowhere. Because I was missing an ingredient.

Magician's call.

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Speaking with confidence isn’t a gift, it’s a skill - Vinh Giang reveals the blueprint to mastering the art of communicationVinh Giang is an award-winning entrepreneur, part-magician, and full time communication coach. He runs masterclasses and has...

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