The Question We Wait to Be Asked | Ken Woodward #89

"The avoided question and the awaited question. Same person. Two sides of one ache." - Ken Woodward Nearly all of the research on curiosity studies the person asking. A new study out of New York University, led by Dr. Niobe Way and Rachel Taffe, turned the lens around and asked the receiver instead. They gave 641 young people a single written prompt: what is the question you most wish someone would ask you, and why. More than ninety-seven out of every hundred had an answer ready. In this solo episode, Ken sits in that other chair. He walks the eight kinds of questions people long to receive and the six reasons underneath them, and finds that almost none of them are about information. People want to be seen, to be cared for, to be given permission to say the loving thing they have been holding back. Drawing on more than thirteen hundred conversations from his two years walking every street in Washington, D.C., Ken offers the lived proof: the woman undone by "good to see you," the friend he carries, the questions strangers had been waiting years for someone to ask. He closes on two pillars of the same practice. The question you are avoiding, and the question you are awaiting. A meditation on the plainest question in the language, and what it costs to drive around for years with one sitting unasked in the seat beside us. This Curated Questions episode can be found on all major platforms and at CuratedQuestions.com. Be sure to subscribe to the weekly Curated Questions Dispatch newsletter for more fun with questions and curiosity! (https://substack.com/@curatedquestions (https://substack.com/@curatedquestions?)) Keep questioning!