The Real Downside of Intentionally Misunderstanding People

This week in the communal Schauer we’re discussing the actual, neurological, downside of intentionally (not accidentally) misunderstanding others! Now I do want y’all to know that there is a difference between genuine debate and being an obtuse pr*ck, so please don’t assume I’m saying “never disagree again.” You can understand (comprehend) someone but you do not have to validate their augment (apply positive or negative moral judgement) because those are two separate processes in the brain. Other than that, please enjoy this episode, have an amazing week, and I hope you feel *a moderate to intense* experience of delight with this new information! Please like and subscribe on YouTube, rate me five stars on Apple Podcasts and Spotify! I greatly appreciate it. Please always feel free to send Schauer Thoughts episodes to your therapist or mental health provider :) For more information on my book club visit: Substack: https://sarahschauer.substack.com/p/schauer-thoughts-book-club-additional?utm_source=activity_item Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/c/sarahschauer/membership Resources: Olivia Unplugged Tiktok https://www.tiktok.com/@olivia.unplugged?_t=ZT-90APwzxxDNG&_r=1 Such an incredible creator and account, definitely recommend following her! Life In Three Dimensions: How Curiosity, Exploration, and Experience Make a Fuller, Better Life - Shigehiro Oishi, PhD Why We Sleep - Matthew Walker PhD Use Powerful Intentions to Become Your Authentic Best  https://newayscenter.com/powerful-intentions-authentic-best/ Helpful resource for positively framing intentions The influence of intentions on dream content  https://academic.oup.com/sleepadvances/article/5/1/zpae088/7912101 How the Little-Known Zeigarnik Effect Impacts Everyone Daily https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/natural-order/202209/how-the-little-known-zeigarnik-effect-impacts-everyone-daily The Art of Sustainable Performance: The Zeigarnik Effect https://link.springer.com/chapter/10.1007/978-3-030-46463-9_10 Dreaming and offline memory processing https://www.cell.com/current-biology/fulltext/S0960-9822(10)01360-6?_returnURL=https%3A%2F%2Flinkinghub.elsevier.com%2Fretrieve%2Fpii%2FS0960982210013606%3Fshowall%3Dtrue The Neuroscience of Goals and Behavior Change https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5854216/#:~:text=This%20habit%20learning%20process%20also,with%20in%20the%20first%20place. The neural bases of feeling understood and not understood https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4249470/#nst191-B33 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices