Transformation Over Time : Becoming, Healing with Community, and Letting Yourself be Seen

This conversation is about transformation over time, choosing honesty over perfection, and what changes when you finally meet yourself.Patty shares where he is in life now, feeling grateful, more decisive, and learning how to slow down after years of constantly saying yes and pushing himself to keep up with the pace around him. He reflects on how quickly emotional seasons can shift, and how life has a way of returning us to the lessons we have not fully learned yet.The conversation moves through Patty’s early experiences with grief, the pressure to be productive, and the ways shame and isolation shaped his relationship with confidence and self expression. For many years he hid parts of himself, including his sexuality and sensitivity, which made things like singing and creative expression feel unsafe to share.Over time, practices like yoga, therapy, travel, fasting, and time spent at an ashram in Cambodia began to move healing from the mind into the body. Those experiences eventually led him into teaching, working through feelings of imposter syndrome, and helping create Grounded Good Guys, a space for men seeking connection, growth, and emotional honesty.At its heart, this conversation is about learning to slow down, allowing life to be messy, and recognizing that healing rarely looks neat or linear. Sometimes it simply looks like choosing to stay present with what is.Chapters00:27 Meet Patty01:44 Where Patty Is Now04:35 Learning to Slow Down08:12 The Pressure to Always Be Productive12:10 Early Grief and Childhood Experiences16:02 Shame, Isolation, and Hiding Parts of Himself20:30 Confidence, Singing, and Self Expression25:18 Discovering Yoga and Body Based Healing30:07 Therapy, Travel, and Personal Growth34:52 Time at an Ashram in Cambodia39:15 Fasting and Spiritual Exploration43:36 Moving From Healing to Teaching48:10 Facing Imposter Syndrome52:05 Creating Grounded Good Guys56:40 Men, Vulnerability, and Community1:01:20 Letting Life Be a Beautiful Mess1:04:10 What Patty Is Learning Right Now1:07:05 Closing ReflectionsThis podcast is built around honest conversations and shared experience. If something from this episode resonated with you, or you have thoughts you want to share, feel free to email ⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠. And if you feel like coming on the podcast for a real conversation, reach out and say hi.Stay connected and follow along on Instagram ⁠@theartofhonestypodcast⁠