EPISODE · Feb 4, 2022 · 19 MIN
Understanding The Impacts of Relationships
from The Relationship Guy
Today John reads from his book “The People Programme”. PEOPLE is an acronym for the six titles of the modules of his coaching program; Problems, Emotions, Operate, Patterns, Likelihood and Enhance. It helps us to understand the current occurrences in our lives based on past events, understanding those around us, any programmed patterns of behaviour we have and how we can change and move forward. KEY TAKEAWAYS John reads about how his past experiences from childhood led to his current thoughts and opinions on relationships. Lacking attention turned John into a bit of an extrovert and his parents examples left him confused on how relationships were supposed to be. A favoured brother, the responsibility to apologise and being second all created coping strategies that John used to navigate his environment efficiently. Children learn at a deeper and more permanent level and these lessons are very hard to shift in later life. BEST MOMENTS ‘ What is not funny and is completely overlooked from reciting this story is that I’m a young child out late by myself in the dark. I had not been seen for hours, obviously I had missed my dinner, and my brother is all tucked up in bed and I haven’t even been missed.’ ‘When anything happened where I was told off, I would always be the one made to apologise and make things right. Otherwise I was just ignored and made to stay in my room until I had.’ ‘My brain was learning how I could survive. That’s right, survive. My young brains only job at that age was to learn how to keep me alive, how to cope with all the things that were happening and for me to get through it all.’ ‘If something feels unknown or uncomfortable I must check in with myself and give it a go before I dismiss it immediately.’ VALUABLE RESOURCES If you want to order a copy of my book The P.E.O.P.L.E. Programme, then you can just pay postage and packing of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life - why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy ABOUT THE HOST I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose. CONTACT METHOD Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/ Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach} YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQClubhouse - @relationshipguy Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Today John reads from his book “The People Programme”. PEOPLE is an acronym for the six titles of the modules of his coaching program; Problems, Emotions, Operate, Patterns, Likelihood and Enhance. It helps us to understand the current occurrences in our lives based on past events, understanding those around us, any programmed patterns of behaviour we have and how we can change and move forward. KEY TAKEAWAYS John reads about how his past experiences from childhood led to his current thoughts and opinions on relationships. Lacking attention turned John into a bit of an extrovert and his parents examples left him confused on how relationships were supposed to be. A favoured brother, the responsibility to apologise and being second all created coping strategies that John used to navigate his environment efficiently. Children learn at a deeper and more permanent level and these lessons are very hard to shift in later life. BEST MOMENTS ‘ What is not funny and is completely overlooked from reciting this story is that I’m a young child out late by myself in the dark. I had not been seen for hours, obviously I had missed my dinner, and my brother is all tucked up in bed and I haven’t even been missed.’ ‘When anything happened where I was told off, I would always be the one made to apologise and make things right. Otherwise I was just ignored and made to stay in my room until I had.’ ‘My brain was learning how I could survive. That’s right, survive. My young brains only job at that age was to learn how to keep me alive, how to cope with all the things that were happening and for me to get through it all.’ ‘If something feels unknown or uncomfortable I must check in with myself and give it a go before I dismiss it immediately.’ VALUABLE RESOURCES If you want to order a copy of my book The P.E.O.P.L.E. Programme, then you can just pay postage and packing of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life - why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy ABOUT THE HOST I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose. CONTACT METHOD Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching LinkedIn - https:www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching Insta - https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/ Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach} YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQClubhouse - @relationshipguy Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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