brought to you by CHM, a Biblical based alternative to health insurance. Learn more at CHMinistries.org slash budget. My question is we recently found out through my sister-in-law because in the night that there is inheritance money, we did not know existed through my husband's parents who got it from a grandma and they, one of nine siblings and all of them have used, we know us, have used that inheritance money for paying for grad school. And we did not know that this was available.
We paid our way through grad school and we had been graduated about three years ago and we are in between baby steps three and four trying to save up for a house. And so we feel a little, I don't know. No, you feel a lot. Whatever you feel, it's a lot.
Wait, are you in the will and it just wasn't distributed to you or were you not in the will to get it? We are not sure. It just slipped through my sister's room out of the top of the weekend on a family trip that grandma's inheritance money paid for her husband, my husband's brother to go through grad school and we asked, oh, is this the same for all other eight siblings that you said? Yeah, you guys think?
No. Interesting. We paid our way through grad school. Who's the executor?
Who's in charge of it? Probably I would death my father-in-law. Okay. Have you gone to him or well, not you, but has your husband because I feel like this is his battle, by the way.
Has he gone to the grandfather and said, did I, did I, did I miss something? Like, and here's the thing and can hold me back, but you can't go in entitled. You just have to ask, you'd be curious. Hey, I was on a trip and this was what I found out.
I don't know, but it sounded like it was for everybody. And if it is, I wonder if we, you know, were overlooked in some way. Can you give me more information? Yeah, I guess that was part of my question.
We have not approached him yet with what the father, because I don't want to come across as, you know, needing or, well, remember, you don't need to be involved in this. This is not your deal. Your husband, now, if you've got to give him a pep talk and fire him up and let him borrow some of your backbone, that's one thing. Yeah, but you don't talk, but you don't say anything to the in-laws on this.
Okay. Is it possible that the sister-in-law doesn't know what she's talking about? It's possible. I guess that part of the issue is they're quite a bit younger than us and they own two properties and we are like, no, no, I get all this.
First of all, I don't think that's your house. Wait a second. I detect something and I'm not trying to call you out, but I detect the air of, I'm not going to say jealousy, but I detect an air of we should have what they have or they shouldn't have. Does that make sense?
I'm not trying to put you on a spot, but yeah. So let's talk about this then. Let's pretend that you said, Hey, we're not in the will. What gives?
Like what if you talked, what if your husband talks to the dad and it's like, sorry, yeah, you weren't a part of this. What, what, what then would your attitude be towards it? I think I'd be okay with that. Okay.
No, you wouldn't. You would not be okay with being the only your husband being the only sibling who didn't get some of this inheritance. I mean, you at least have questions, right? I would have questions, but I, I don't think I honestly don't think I'd have, I wouldn't ask any further.
Okay. Yeah, but I just want to call this out. I know you're going another angle. You call it out, Kim.
I'm not saying you're wrong. I think she kind of admitted said I couldn't hear, but, but Mikayla is nat, it's very natural for you to feel this way because your husband feels though he might be wronged. And when your husband or spouse, well, this goes both ways, gets wronged. We the spouse.
We're on their side. We just really get affected. So all of this is very normal. Glad you call this.
We've already told you what we think, but your husband needs to sit with dad and soon and just ask questions. This is what I was, my wife was told, is this true? He gets to the bottom of it and then you guys will have to deal with whatever that is, but make no mistake about it. Her comment about the younger sibling and what they have telling, it's telling, but it's also, it's all coming from this one issue.
It is and and I think that when you're in baby, we could use it more than them. That's what this is. Yes. That's what I'm getting out.
When you're in a tough spot, you're looking around and you're just kind of looking for anything you can hold to. I get it. Yeah, we're not, I wasn't saying that in a way to be definitely not ugly towards you, but it's worth examining and going, okay, what's my, like to your point, can what's my true feelings here? And it's okay to have feelings.
We then just have to make sure our response is the right. And that's all I'm saying, Mikayla. I want you to feel okay to be angry. Yeah.
Because if this is true, you and your husband have every right to be angry. Ken, I told you the story before, when Sam and I got married, his grandfather, there were stipulations on the will and he's allowed to make those stipulations because it was his money. Right. And so the stipulation was you got to marry someone else Jewish and guess what Jade Warshot is not really.
Yeah. Did you not know? I'm just, what gave it away? I was kidding.
But, um, so the part of it, did he uphold that? The grandpa? No, he did not get the money. And so, I mean, he stuck to his guns.
The grandfather did. Well, the grandfather passed away. So what ended up happening later on? That's right.
Later on. Yeah, it's in the will, but later on his wife at the time said, I really liked Jade and I'm going to, we're going to make this happen. And she amended it. They got him in it and not only for me, but the other cousins who decided not to go check out.
Yeah. Hey, cheers to her, by the way. I don't know if it was right. Dave might be like, no, keep it the way, you know, the wishes are the wishes.
I don't know what Dave would say, but I'm not Dave. And I got a strong opinion on that. But if the, if the grandfather leaves the money to his wife, yes, he had explicit instructions. But the other day he left it to her.
She was very, it's now hers. She was very solid on the fact that if he had, she said, if he had met you, he would have changed his mind. That's what she said to me. I think she's right.
But my point is it's now her money. Yeah. She gets to decide what she's going to do. That's fast.
That's fast. Yeah. Yeah. So I can understand to your point, I can understand the feeling of having emotions around the thing.
Tough stuff. It's not easy. Yeah. But in this case, and this is what I don't like for her.
I don't like that sister-in-law dropped that. Yeah. Unvacation. Do you think there was a little intent behind it?
Is that what you're saying? I don't know. And I don't want to go that route because I don't think that's helpful to Michaela. What I am saying is I would immediately go into the father if I'm her husband and because we don't know if sister-in-law knows what's going on with the nine other siblings.
You know what it's very possible. Unless she knows of a reason he could have been withheld, which we didn't ask her. That makes sense to me. It's very possible he just got overlooked like that.
Whoever the executor is just, you don't buy it. Well, you know, now that you're saying that, I have three kids. Yeah. And I remember telling Stacy, like, because we had three under the age of three, that's kind of half and quickly frozen.
Yeah. And I remember going as they got a little girl, I'm glad we didn't have more than three. I don't understand how parents who have like six and seven, eight and nine, how do they do it? Now I can see maybe maybe this happened.
Maybe somebody is sitting over there waiting to be collected. Maybe he's the middle child. I don't think so though. CHM isn't health insurance.
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