When Anger Turns Into Guilt: Holding Both Truths in Healing

Sometimes, when you finally allow yourself to feel anger, the next emotion that shows up is guilt.In this episode, we explore a common and confusing part of the healing journey — especially when it comes to our relationships with caregivers.As adults, when we begin to reflect on our childhood, we may recognize moments where our needs were not met. This awareness often brings up anger — anger that has been held in the body for years.But as healing continues, another layer appears.We begin to understand our caregivers differently — their limitations, their experiences, and the reality that they may have done the best they could with what they had.And that’s where the conflict begins.In this episode, we explore:* Why anger is a necessary part of healing* How childhood experiences show up in adulthood* The difference between your younger self and your adult self* Why guilt often follows anger* The difficulty of holding two truths at once* How to respond with compassion instead of self-blame* What it means to integrate all parts of yourselfYou don’t have to choose between: “I was hurt” and “They did their best”Both can exist.Lakay Within Lakay Within is a space created for Haitian women to slow down, reconnect, and heal in community. The next gathering will take place on April 14th. If you’ve been looking for a space to pause and be supported, you are warmly invited. You can find more details here.Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for therapy.Aurelie Zephir offers therapy services in California and Texas. Learn more here Get full access to Aurelie Zephir LMFT at aureliezephir.substack.com/subscribe