Why High-Achieving Women Struggle With Anxiety

Are you a driven, ambitious woman who is sick of the constant hum of anxiety running the show in your life? You’re not alone. In this episode, we’re diving deep into the hidden epidemic of anxiety among high-achieving women and why the very traits that make you successful—perfectionism, ambition, creativity, and intuition—can also fuel chronic stress, overwhelm, and self-doubt. You’ll discover:✅ The real reasons high-achieving women experience anxiety (and why it’s not your fault)✅ Why traditional solutions like therapy, meditation, and journaling often fall short✅ The #1 missing link in most anxiety programs that keeps you stuck in the same cycle✅ How a mind-body-spirit approach can help you regain control, ease anxiety, and thrive If you’ve tried everything but still feel overwhelmed, this episode is for you. Anxiety doesn’t have to be your norm. Tune in to learn how to break free, reclaim your power, and build the inner peace, energy, and resilience you need to create a life you love. Ready to learn how to shift your inner state and cultivate calm in just 2 minutes? Grab the Anxiety & Stress Reset here: https://www.megan-nolan.com/resetjan Grab the free Power Pause Pocket Guide for more grounding tools and resources to help you find calm and clarity during difficult times: https://www.megan-nolan.com/pocket  Please find the show notes below. Since it is a transcription there may be spelling errors and/or weird grammar. Ignore that and enjoy!   100:00:03,760 --> 00:00:05,920So why is it that so many high achieving 200:00:05,920 --> 00:00:08,240women experience anxiety?Well, that's 300:00:08,240 --> 00:00:10,320what we're diving into today. Welcome 400:00:10,320 --> 00:00:11,680back to the Movement, Mind and Meaning 500:00:11,680 --> 00:00:14,640podcast. I'm your host, Megan Nolan. And 600:00:14,960 --> 00:00:17,280if you can relate to being really 700:00:17,520 --> 00:00:19,760sensitive, empathetic, creative, 800:00:19,760 --> 00:00:22,160passionate, big dreamer, visionary, 900:00:22,480 --> 00:00:24,720going after it, starting new projects, 1000:00:24,720 --> 00:00:26,480maybe multi passionate, you're into a lot 1100:00:26,480 --> 00:00:28,480of things and also. 1200:00:29,040 --> 00:00:31,840Experiencing that chronic hum 1300:00:31,880 --> 00:00:34,760of anxiety that is kind of part 1400:00:34,840 --> 00:00:36,601of that driving force, 'cause you're 1500:00:36,601 --> 00:00:38,441like, I don't want to feel that, I don't 1600:00:38,441 --> 00:00:40,121want to sink into that. And it causes you 1700:00:40,121 --> 00:00:42,481to keep pushing, keep going, keep 1800:00:42,961 --> 00:00:44,841setting bigger and higher goals for 1900:00:44,841 --> 00:00:47,281yourself to constantly kind of fill that 2000:00:47,281 --> 00:00:49,681need. Well, darling, 2100:00:50,401 --> 00:00:53,281welcome. Welcome, welcome. I see 2200:00:53,281 --> 00:00:56,161you. I love you. I am you in my 2300:00:56,161 --> 00:00:58,401own physical form. I can relate 1000%. 2400:00:58,401 --> 00:01:00,481That's what we're going to talk about 2500:01:00,481 --> 00:01:02,041today. Today's probably not going to be a 2600:01:02,041 --> 00:01:04,321longer episode because over here on Maui, 2700:01:04,321 --> 00:01:05,721it's winter time and we're having a bit 2800:01:05,721 --> 00:01:07,561of a storm and the power keeps coming in 2900:01:07,561 --> 00:01:09,681and out. So I'm just going to get down to 3000:01:09,681 --> 00:01:12,561business. OK, how's that?So let's 3100:01:12,561 --> 00:01:14,721talk about this hidden epidemic of 3200:01:14,721 --> 00:01:16,601ambitious, creative, passionate, 3300:01:16,601 --> 00:01:19,361intuitive women. That are experiencing 3400:01:19,361 --> 00:01:21,361anxiety and where does that come from, 3500:01:21,361 --> 00:01:23,161right?Where does that come from?And 3600:01:23,161 --> 00:01:25,321remember that anxiety is a is a 3700:01:25,441 --> 00:01:28,401response to stress. And for those of 3800:01:28,401 --> 00:01:30,281us that are in this world right now, 3900:01:30,281 --> 00:01:32,641which by nature life is and can be 4000:01:32,641 --> 00:01:35,161stressful, this constant 4100:01:35,161 --> 00:01:38,001desire for more, this 4200:01:38,001 --> 00:01:40,881high achieving aspect of our personality 4300:01:41,601 --> 00:01:44,161is an interesting one to consider. Right. 4400:01:44,161 --> 00:01:46,201Because as important as it is for us to 4500:01:46,201 --> 00:01:48,001set these big goals and have these big 4600:01:48,001 --> 00:01:50,482dreams, being high achieving is kind of a 4700:01:50,482 --> 00:01:52,962double-edged sword in that 4800:01:53,522 --> 00:01:56,322it's important for you to set aspirations 4900:01:56,322 --> 00:01:57,962for yourself and to have intentions for 5000:01:57,962 --> 00:02:00,722yourself. But if we're always going 5100:02:00,722 --> 00:02:03,042after it from the more better, faster, 5200:02:03,042 --> 00:02:04,882let's go mentality, 5300:02:05,442 --> 00:02:08,282then. What's happening is that 5400:02:08,282 --> 00:02:10,242part of our personality that is 5500:02:10,562 --> 00:02:12,962constantly seeking, constantly seeking 5600:02:12,962 --> 00:02:15,202gratification, constantly pushing us and 5700:02:15,202 --> 00:02:17,162and and causing us to 5800:02:17,842 --> 00:02:20,442continually, you know, be driving after 5900:02:20,442 --> 00:02:22,242that next big goal or mountaintop. 6000:02:23,202 --> 00:02:25,202That's actually a protective pattern of 6100:02:25,202 --> 00:02:27,922the nervous system, right?And so for 6200:02:27,922 --> 00:02:30,802many of us that experience that. That 6300:02:30,802 --> 00:02:33,762drive to be hyper achieving or 6400:02:34,082 --> 00:02:35,922always looking for that next 6500:02:36,082 --> 00:02:39,042accomplishment in life, that's actually a 6600:02:39,042 --> 00:02:41,322protective pattern that maybe you learned 6700:02:41,322 --> 00:02:43,362as a child, right?And for many of us that 6800:02:43,362 --> 00:02:45,522can relate to that ambitiousness. 6900:02:46,482 --> 00:02:48,802For example, in my family it was 7000:02:48,962 --> 00:02:51,202educational standards. Like I was 7100:02:51,642 --> 00:02:53,762basically mandated to go to university 7200:02:53,762 --> 00:02:55,442and it was all about, you know, getting 7300:02:55,442 --> 00:02:57,722good grades and and doing that next thing 7400:02:57,722 --> 00:02:59,482and you know, getting the gold star and. 7500:02:59,922 --> 00:03:02,803So that that push, that drive 7600:03:02,803 --> 00:03:04,803was wired into me as a child. 7700:03:05,363 --> 00:03:08,083And it's interesting, right?Because that 7800:03:08,243 --> 00:03:10,563that goal setting, ambitious 7900:03:10,563 --> 00:03:13,523quality, it's valuable and it's 8000:03:13,523 --> 00:03:16,243very highly regarded in 8100:03:16,243 --> 00:03:19,043life, right?In leadership, in in the work 8200:03:19,043 --> 00:03:20,203environment, in the corporate 8300:03:20,203 --> 00:03:21,923environment, in entrepreneurship if you 8400:03:21,923 --> 00:03:24,483happen to be one. So it's interesting, 8500:03:24,483 --> 00:03:26,803right?And so it can cause us to be 8600:03:27,123 --> 00:03:29,723constantly going and striving, 8700:03:29,723 --> 00:03:32,643which when that part of our brain that is 8800:03:32,643 --> 00:03:35,603responding to this external stressor 8900:03:35,603 --> 00:03:38,243or internal stressor and pressure 9000:03:38,963 --> 00:03:41,683is getting activated, it's 9100:03:41,763 --> 00:03:44,683also really causing us to maybe also get 9200:03:44,683 --> 00:03:47,443tripped up in perfectionism, 9300:03:48,243 --> 00:03:51,123self-doubt. Self-critical thoughts, 9400:03:51,283 --> 00:03:53,123fear of failure, 9500:03:53,683 --> 00:03:56,083unrealistic standards that we have for 9600:03:56,083 --> 00:03:58,563ourselves. And so all of this can 9700:03:58,563 --> 00:04:01,523lead to that anxious response 9800:04:01,603 --> 00:04:04,323in our body and in our mind. 9900:04:04,763 --> 00:04:07,123And so when we have this really highly 10000:04:07,123 --> 00:04:09,683pressurized driving 10100:04:09,683 --> 00:04:12,563force within us that's always going 10200:04:12,563 --> 00:04:15,484after more, better, faster, let's go. And 10300:04:15,484 --> 00:04:17,924it's not done from a really centered and 10400:04:17,924 --> 00:04:20,564grounded, regulated place. It can 10500:04:20,564 --> 00:04:22,964cause us to experience even more 10600:04:22,964 --> 00:04:25,204anxiety and stress, 10700:04:25,364 --> 00:04:28,124especially if we are prone to that as 10800:04:28,124 --> 00:04:30,644another one of our patterns, right?And so 10900:04:31,204 --> 00:04:33,404again, it's really interesting to start 11000:04:33,404 --> 00:04:36,244to look at of of how these gifts, 11100:04:36,484 --> 00:04:38,724and they are gifts, right?This gift for 11200:04:39,124 --> 00:04:41,204wanting more for yourself, being 11300:04:41,204 --> 00:04:43,524ambitious needs to be. 11400:04:45,124 --> 00:04:48,004Monitored, regulated, right. So 11500:04:48,004 --> 00:04:50,204that it doesn't then lead to more 11600:04:50,204 --> 00:04:52,604anxiety, right. And so it's interesting 11700:04:52,604 --> 00:04:54,484because in the case of high functioning 11800:04:54,484 --> 00:04:57,444anxiety where you are very driven, 11900:04:58,124 --> 00:05:00,964very much in action a lot of the time, 12000:05:01,044 --> 00:05:03,204have a hard time slowing down, are 12100:05:03,204 --> 00:05:06,084constantly, you know, really highly 12200:05:06,084 --> 00:05:08,444attentive to detail, perfectionist, 12300:05:10,644 --> 00:05:12,724that is really 12400:05:13,044 --> 00:05:15,524interesting to look at. Right. And and a 12500:05:15,524 --> 00:05:16,804lot of us that experience high 12600:05:16,804 --> 00:05:19,124functioning anxiety, that 12700:05:19,124 --> 00:05:22,084drive is, is really 12800:05:22,084 --> 00:05:25,004like almost insatiable, right. And 12900:05:25,004 --> 00:05:26,925so it's really important to think about 13000:05:26,925 --> 00:05:29,565that because that insatiable drive, that 13100:05:29,565 --> 00:05:32,405more push, push, push, is it causing you 13200:05:32,405 --> 00:05:34,845to be afraid of making mistakes?Is it 13300:05:34,845 --> 00:05:37,605causing you to overthink everything? 13400:05:37,845 --> 00:05:40,725So it's like these. This entanglement 13500:05:41,005 --> 00:05:43,205of these patterns, right?And and this 13600:05:43,205 --> 00:05:46,005response that we have that's hardwired in 13700:05:46,005 --> 00:05:48,525us as children, right of that, you know, 13800:05:48,525 --> 00:05:50,165and maybe in your family it was similar, 13900:05:50,165 --> 00:05:51,525like you get good grades, you go to 14000:05:51,525 --> 00:05:53,045school, you work really hard, all of 14100:05:53,045 --> 00:05:55,125those things that you know the the high 14200:05:55,125 --> 00:05:57,605achieving mentality is 14300:05:57,765 --> 00:06:00,005woven into. But 14400:06:00,245 --> 00:06:02,885when we are active in that 14500:06:02,885 --> 00:06:05,725stress survival state, it's 14600:06:05,725 --> 00:06:07,885really important for us to recognize 14700:06:07,885 --> 00:06:10,605that. This can really quickly lend to 14800:06:10,605 --> 00:06:13,045stuff like self-criticism, 14900:06:13,285 --> 00:06:15,685self-judgment, imposter syndrome. 15000:06:16,085 --> 00:06:18,725So these are these are all protective 15100:06:18,725 --> 00:06:20,725patterns, right?All protective patterns 15200:06:20,725 --> 00:06:23,565by the ego mind to keep us safe and to 15300:06:23,565 --> 00:06:26,085keep us, you know, going with the 15400:06:26,085 --> 00:06:28,205flow of society, right. So if you think 15500:06:28,205 --> 00:06:30,645about it that very much that that goal 15600:06:30,645 --> 00:06:32,565driven, action oriented, 15700:06:32,805 --> 00:06:35,365pressurized external definition of 15800:06:35,365 --> 00:06:38,326success. Which lends well to being 15900:06:38,326 --> 00:06:40,326a hyper achiever or a high achiever 16000:06:41,366 --> 00:06:44,166is very stressful. And so 16100:06:44,246 --> 00:06:47,126if our pattern and our default is 16200:06:47,126 --> 00:06:49,766to experience stress, right, 16300:06:49,766 --> 00:06:51,966experience these pressures and go into 16400:06:52,566 --> 00:06:55,446anxiety as our internal situation 16500:06:55,446 --> 00:06:57,286that our nervous system responds with, 16600:06:58,486 --> 00:07:00,966can you see how this would feed itself, 16700:07:01,526 --> 00:07:03,846right?Can you see how it would, it would? 16800:07:04,966 --> 00:07:07,846In on one side of the coin, cause us to 16900:07:07,846 --> 00:07:10,486be really driven and taking action, but 17000:07:10,486 --> 00:07:13,246internally just spinning in the 17100:07:13,286 --> 00:07:16,246anxiety. And on the other side of the 17200:07:16,246 --> 00:07:19,006coin, if you were able to 17300:07:20,086 --> 00:07:23,046watch that desire 17400:07:23,046 --> 00:07:25,006and that drive to 17500:07:25,526 --> 00:07:28,486constantly be striving and be able 17600:07:28,486 --> 00:07:30,886to quiet your nervous system 17700:07:30,886 --> 00:07:33,086response and come back to a more 17800:07:33,086 --> 00:07:35,926regulated state. Come back to that green 17900:07:35,926 --> 00:07:37,366zone in the middle where you're in your 18000:07:37,366 --> 00:07:39,126leadership energy, when you're in that 18100:07:39,126 --> 00:07:41,366sense of powerful presence, when you're 18200:07:41,366 --> 00:07:43,686experiencing that inner serenity that 18300:07:43,686 --> 00:07:46,486comes when you are truly grounded. And 18400:07:46,486 --> 00:07:48,886then you witnessed your capability for 18500:07:49,046 --> 00:07:51,567setting goals and being a dreamer and and 18600:07:51,567 --> 00:07:53,207really putting yourself out there and 18700:07:53,207 --> 00:07:55,127taking action. But you did it from that 18800:07:55,127 --> 00:07:57,767regulated place. How much more 18900:07:57,767 --> 00:08:00,047aligned with you and the truth of who you 19000:08:00,167 --> 00:08:02,647are that would be because 19100:08:02,647 --> 00:08:05,527when we are. In that state of 19200:08:05,767 --> 00:08:07,807really feeling like we have to 19300:08:07,807 --> 00:08:10,247continually prove ourselves and achieve 19400:08:10,247 --> 00:08:11,367these external 19500:08:12,807 --> 00:08:14,567achievements or, you know, 19600:08:15,127 --> 00:08:17,847certifications or levels or scales or 19700:08:17,847 --> 00:08:20,247whatever it is, we tend to overcommit, 19800:08:20,327 --> 00:08:21,967right?We tend to overfunction. We tend 19900:08:21,967 --> 00:08:24,727to, you know, give of ourselves in this 20000:08:24,727 --> 00:08:27,607really overdrawn sort of 20100:08:27,607 --> 00:08:30,087way. And then we're our nervous system 20200:08:30,087 --> 00:08:32,847just pays the price, right?And that's. It 20300:08:32,847 --> 00:08:35,247tends to be the fuel running on caffeine 20400:08:35,247 --> 00:08:37,407and cortisol, like and being frantic and 20500:08:37,407 --> 00:08:40,007frazzled in anxiety overdrive. It tends 20600:08:40,007 --> 00:08:42,607to be the fuel for many of us. And that's 20700:08:42,607 --> 00:08:45,327not sustainable and it sure ain't 20800:08:45,327 --> 00:08:48,007enjoyable, is it?Is itAnd so, 20900:08:48,327 --> 00:08:49,927you know, this is such an important thing 21000:08:49,927 --> 00:08:52,807for us to look at because again, when 21100:08:52,807 --> 00:08:55,607we are in this survival state, 21200:08:55,607 --> 00:08:57,527in these protective patterns, when we're 21300:08:57,527 --> 00:08:59,287in that chatter channel of our mind, just 21400:08:59,287 --> 00:09:00,887like constantly critiquing and 21500:09:00,887 --> 00:09:02,568overthinking and. You know, 21600:09:02,568 --> 00:09:05,328perfectionizing to the Nth degree and and 21700:09:05,328 --> 00:09:07,208really taking on too much and over 21800:09:07,208 --> 00:09:09,608functioning and sacrificing our sanity, 21900:09:09,608 --> 00:09:12,328sacrificing our self-care, we tend to get 22000:09:12,648 --> 00:09:14,728really sensitive, right?And so many of us 22100:09:14,728 --> 00:09:16,808are are really sensitive anyway. And so 22200:09:17,128 --> 00:09:18,888that's when like things when things don't 22300:09:18,888 --> 00:09:21,208go our way, you know or things get or we 22400:09:21,208 --> 00:09:22,728make mistakes and that's when it's just 22500:09:22,728 --> 00:09:25,168like fuel for the fire 22600:09:25,168 --> 00:09:27,448right of the the chatter channel in our 22700:09:27,448 --> 00:09:30,408head, like the self-criticism 22800:09:30,408 --> 00:09:32,968just. Because we're stressed, right?And 22900:09:32,968 --> 00:09:34,568we're already in that active, we're 23000:09:34,568 --> 00:09:36,328already in that survival center of the 23100:09:36,328 --> 00:09:38,848brain and it's just that critical voice 23200:09:38,848 --> 00:09:41,688of the mind just gets fuel from the fire. 23300:09:41,688 --> 00:09:43,928And then of course it just lends to more 23400:09:43,928 --> 00:09:46,808anxiety. It's like this self fulfilling 23500:09:46,808 --> 00:09:49,608prophecy, right?Can you see, I hope this 23600:09:49,608 --> 00:09:51,288is making sense. I really hope that this 23700:09:51,328 --> 00:09:53,688is making sense because you know, this 23800:09:53,688 --> 00:09:55,768chronic stress that we're experiencing 23900:09:55,848 --> 00:09:58,488because of these patterns that you know. 24000:09:59,208 --> 00:10:00,488Are hardwired in and they're 24100:10:00,488 --> 00:10:02,768subconscious. So it's we're just bringing 24200:10:02,768 --> 00:10:05,128awareness to it, right. And so you know, 24300:10:05,848 --> 00:10:08,008it's really again that compassionate 24400:10:08,008 --> 00:10:10,168curiosity that's so important. 24500:10:11,088 --> 00:10:14,008And So what we're looking at is, OK, 24600:10:14,408 --> 00:10:16,409if this is the case for us and you're 24700:10:16,409 --> 00:10:18,649experiencing both hand in hand this, 24800:10:18,969 --> 00:10:21,929this high achieving drive and 24900:10:21,929 --> 00:10:24,329this goal driven. And you want, you don't 25000:10:24,329 --> 00:10:26,249want to give that up, right?Like, I want 25100:10:26,249 --> 00:10:27,609you to go out there and do things and 25200:10:27,609 --> 00:10:29,209live your heart's passion and like, go 25300:10:29,209 --> 00:10:31,289out there and be the badass beautiful 25400:10:31,289 --> 00:10:34,249being that you are. But not at 25500:10:34,249 --> 00:10:36,289the expense of your happiness, not at the 25600:10:36,289 --> 00:10:38,649expense of your joy, not at the expense 25700:10:38,649 --> 00:10:40,249of who you truly are. 25800:10:41,449 --> 00:10:43,689If it's all run by that anxious 25900:10:43,769 --> 00:10:46,529drive, how can we begin to 26000:10:46,649 --> 00:10:49,529shift this pattern, right?And so. This 26100:10:49,529 --> 00:10:51,769is an important question is is how can we 26200:10:51,769 --> 00:10:53,849begin to shift this pattern and come back 26300:10:53,849 --> 00:10:56,809to using this beautiful gift from a more 26400:10:56,809 --> 00:10:59,529aligned place, from a more centered 26500:10:59,529 --> 00:11:01,849place. And it's important to think about 26600:11:01,849 --> 00:11:03,529and to ask ourself that. And that's where 26700:11:03,529 --> 00:11:05,489this these tools taking power pauses 26800:11:05,489 --> 00:11:07,609throughout the day so that you're not 26900:11:07,689 --> 00:11:10,129running on anxiety OverDrive, right? 27000:11:10,809 --> 00:11:13,369You are grounded, you're 27100:11:13,369 --> 00:11:15,529centered. And that's where power pauses 27200:11:15,529 --> 00:11:17,609come in. And that's where all of these 27300:11:17,609 --> 00:11:19,729different beautiful routines and rituals 27400:11:19,729 --> 00:11:21,689that is the work that I do comes in. 27500:11:22,009 --> 00:11:24,369Because we tend to sacrifice ourselves 27600:11:24,369 --> 00:11:25,769when we're under stress and when we're 27700:11:25,769 --> 00:11:28,170feeling anxious. It's our mind is already 27800:11:28,170 --> 00:11:30,090in that active state, in the survival 27900:11:30,090 --> 00:11:32,890center of the brain. And so it 28000:11:33,290 --> 00:11:35,610it wants to just perpetrate that pattern. 28100:11:35,850 --> 00:11:37,770But that's really key. We wanna feel the 28200:11:37,770 --> 00:11:39,690feel of whatever the however it's 28300:11:39,690 --> 00:11:41,690presenting for you in that moment of like 28400:11:42,490 --> 00:11:44,730just one more web page, just one more 28500:11:44,730 --> 00:11:47,450e-mail, you know, in that like you know 28600:11:47,450 --> 00:11:49,010it, you know the, you know the feeling. 28700:11:49,010 --> 00:11:50,810It's like the vice grip internally. It's 28800:11:50,810 --> 00:11:52,610like you're getting squeezed like a tube 28900:11:52,610 --> 00:11:54,490of toothpaste by that anxious feeling. 29000:11:55,530 --> 00:11:58,450So feel the feels. And that's why we 29100:11:58,450 --> 00:12:00,730take this beautiful multi-layered. 29200:12:01,450 --> 00:12:03,730Multi pronged. I want to think of a 29300:12:03,730 --> 00:12:05,570different analogy cause prong makes me 29400:12:05,570 --> 00:12:07,850think of something getting poked. But 29500:12:07,850 --> 00:12:10,330anyways this multilayered approach right? 29600:12:10,330 --> 00:12:12,970Multi multifaceted. There we go. 29700:12:13,010 --> 00:12:14,970Multifaceted like a Dang it 29800:12:16,250 --> 00:12:18,730approach because you're 29900:12:18,730 --> 00:12:20,730multifaceted darling. Especially if 30000:12:20,730 --> 00:12:22,610you're multi passionate, especially if 30100:12:22,610 --> 00:12:24,170you have all these beautiful things that 30200:12:24,170 --> 00:12:26,730you love and look into and so and are 30300:12:26,730 --> 00:12:28,890into and so. That's where 30400:12:28,890 --> 00:12:31,610traditional approaches oftentimes miss 30500:12:31,610 --> 00:12:33,850the mark because it's just in the mind, 30600:12:33,850 --> 00:12:35,370right?It's just in the mind of like 30700:12:35,370 --> 00:12:36,850therapy is very important. We want to 30800:12:36,850 --> 00:12:38,570process, we want to get clarity 30900:12:39,210 --> 00:12:41,851or. Are we missing out on 31000:12:42,731 --> 00:12:45,251it really anchoring into the body if 31100:12:45,251 --> 00:12:47,731we're just in the mind, or if we're just 31200:12:47,731 --> 00:12:50,171doing, you know, mindset work, like 31300:12:50,171 --> 00:12:51,611shifting your perspective and 31400:12:51,611 --> 00:12:53,771affirmations and journaling and stuff 31500:12:53,771 --> 00:12:56,251like that, we miss out again on the body. 31600:12:56,571 --> 00:12:59,091But if we are focused just on the body 31700:12:59,091 --> 00:13:00,731and just on, you know, exercise for 31800:13:00,731 --> 00:13:02,731stress reduction, then again, we miss 31900:13:02,731 --> 00:13:05,211that other beautiful, subtle layer of the 32000:13:05,211 --> 00:13:07,891emotionality of you and the 32100:13:08,171 --> 00:13:09,851the mental aspect of you and the 32200:13:09,851 --> 00:13:12,331spiritual aspect of you. And so, you 32300:13:12,331 --> 00:13:13,931know, there's so many different 32400:13:14,731 --> 00:13:16,811facets to this approach and so many 32500:13:16,811 --> 00:13:19,611different tools in the toolbox, but it's 32600:13:19,611 --> 00:13:21,771really important to have a fully 32700:13:21,771 --> 00:13:24,411integrated approach to this because. 32800:13:24,731 --> 00:13:27,691You're you're not your mind and you're 32900:13:27,691 --> 00:13:30,651not your body. You're 33000:13:30,651 --> 00:13:33,611more. You are this beautiful soul. You 33100:13:33,611 --> 00:13:35,411are this essence. You are this energetic, 33200:13:35,411 --> 00:13:37,611spiritual being, having a very physical 33300:13:37,611 --> 00:13:40,491experience, experiencing very physical 33400:13:41,851 --> 00:13:44,331realities of this life that we live in, 33500:13:44,331 --> 00:13:46,331right?Which is, you know. You're out 33600:13:46,331 --> 00:13:47,691there making things happen. You got 33700:13:47,691 --> 00:13:49,371goals. You're doing things in your work. 33800:13:49,371 --> 00:13:50,571Maybe you're doing things in your 33900:13:50,571 --> 00:13:51,851business. If you're an entrepreneur, 34000:13:51,851 --> 00:13:53,772you're a leader, you're a community 34100:13:53,772 --> 00:13:55,212member. These are all very physical 34200:13:55,212 --> 00:13:58,092realities. But the being 34300:13:58,092 --> 00:14:01,052doing all the doing is the priority. 34400:14:01,852 --> 00:14:04,732And the being that has this tendency 34500:14:04,732 --> 00:14:06,412to be really ambitious and really 34600:14:06,412 --> 00:14:09,052passionate and really driven, it has 34700:14:09,052 --> 00:14:11,772needs. You have needs, right?You have 34800:14:11,772 --> 00:14:14,012needs. And those are physical needs, 34900:14:14,292 --> 00:14:17,132right?Your body. You're not a rock, right? 35000:14:17,212 --> 00:14:19,372Movement is such a powerful tool. You 35100:14:19,372 --> 00:14:20,812know this by now, if you've listened to a 35200:14:20,812 --> 00:14:23,012few episodes, that movement is mind and 35300:14:23,012 --> 00:14:25,612body medicine. It's really important 35400:14:25,932 --> 00:14:27,612to be able to keep your energy, your 35500:14:27,612 --> 00:14:28,932prana, flowing through your body. 35600:14:28,932 --> 00:14:31,052Because, hey, you're probably sitting 35700:14:31,052 --> 00:14:33,852right now, aren't you?And we all spend a 35800:14:33,852 --> 00:14:35,692lot of time sitting. And so there's such 35900:14:35,692 --> 00:14:38,652beautiful benefits of movement as a a 36000:14:38,652 --> 00:14:40,972practice. Mental, physical, 36100:14:41,212 --> 00:14:42,972spiritual, emotional benefits, right? 36200:14:43,292 --> 00:14:44,492We've talked about that in other 36300:14:44,492 --> 00:14:46,252episodes. You likely know that, but it's 36400:14:46,252 --> 00:14:48,132just a good reminder. And then 36500:14:48,132 --> 00:14:50,252emotionally, it's your energy. 36600:14:51,052 --> 00:14:53,412Your emotions are energy in motion. And 36700:14:53,412 --> 00:14:56,172so we wanna allow them to move. And that 36800:14:56,172 --> 00:14:57,972can be done through movement practices 36900:14:57,972 --> 00:15:00,332and dance and somatic work. But we also 37000:15:00,332 --> 00:15:02,332do that by talking. We also do that by 37100:15:02,332 --> 00:15:04,893expressing. We also do that by allowing 37200:15:04,893 --> 00:15:07,373yourself to feel them physically, 37300:15:07,373 --> 00:15:10,213somatically in your body. Mentally, it's 37400:15:10,213 --> 00:15:11,853so important to have clarity and 37500:15:11,853 --> 00:15:14,293community and connection so that you can 37600:15:14,293 --> 00:15:16,853really get what you need spiritually. And 37700:15:16,853 --> 00:15:18,493and that's really coming back to people 37800:15:18,493 --> 00:15:20,653that get it right, to be seen, to be 37900:15:20,653 --> 00:15:23,333witnessed. And so it's really important 38000:15:23,333 --> 00:15:26,293to remember that when you 38100:15:26,293 --> 00:15:28,053are connected to all of these different 38200:15:28,053 --> 00:15:30,413aspects of who you are. 38300:15:31,133 --> 00:15:33,853You are giving yourself on this 38400:15:33,933 --> 00:15:35,933multifaceted, multi-layered, 38500:15:35,933 --> 00:15:38,093multi-dimensional, if you will, if you're 38600:15:38,093 --> 00:15:40,973into that sort of thing approach. 38700:15:41,533 --> 00:15:43,853And that's really where the magic happens 38800:15:43,853 --> 00:15:46,333when it comes to tending to you, 38900:15:46,973 --> 00:15:49,453to yourself as this beautiful 39000:15:49,453 --> 00:15:51,533being on all these levels and layers, 39100:15:51,613 --> 00:15:54,013having this very real physical 39200:15:54,013 --> 00:15:56,813experience that sometimes 39300:15:56,813 --> 00:15:59,773might include anxiety or depression. 39400:16:00,253 --> 00:16:02,653And so it's really important to 39500:16:02,693 --> 00:16:04,893embrace this comprehensive, 39600:16:05,053 --> 00:16:07,853holistic, integrated approach. And that's 39700:16:07,853 --> 00:16:09,133really the work that I do. And I'm 39800:16:09,133 --> 00:16:11,973working on something exciting to help you 39900:16:11,973 --> 00:16:13,933with that. So stay tuned, more 40000:16:13,933 --> 00:16:16,814information coming on that soon. So we 40100:16:16,814 --> 00:16:18,454have reached the part of our episode 40200:16:18,454 --> 00:16:20,254where we are going to take a power pause. 40300:16:21,454 --> 00:16:24,254And today we're going to do a 60 second 40400:16:24,334 --> 00:16:27,294nervous system reset that you can do 40500:16:27,374 --> 00:16:29,454anytime, anywhere, especially. 40600:16:30,054 --> 00:16:32,174When you're feeling anxious or 40700:16:32,814 --> 00:16:35,134noticing that push, push, drive, drive, 40800:16:35,134 --> 00:16:37,614go, go, go energy that tends to come 40900:16:37,854 --> 00:16:40,494when you are very high 41000:16:40,534 --> 00:16:43,214achieving, ambitious, driven woman 41100:16:43,534 --> 00:16:45,294that is often 41200:16:46,734 --> 00:16:48,574feeling like you have to go for it. You 41300:16:48,574 --> 00:16:50,174have to you want to just keep pushing 41400:16:50,174 --> 00:16:52,454through to avoid the feeling of anxiety 41500:16:52,454 --> 00:16:53,854or you're running on that anxiety 41600:16:53,854 --> 00:16:55,734OverDrive that like I can't stop, won't 41700:16:55,734 --> 00:16:58,414stop, don't stop vibe. OK, 41800:16:58,574 --> 00:17:01,374so trust me when I say that when you 41900:17:01,374 --> 00:17:03,614feel the feels of anxiety and you do this 42000:17:03,614 --> 00:17:06,094reset, it's so powerful, it's so 42100:17:06,094 --> 00:17:08,334effective, it's so efficient. And the 42200:17:08,334 --> 00:17:10,494interesting thing is, for many of us that 42300:17:10,494 --> 00:17:13,414are of this beautiful type of human, and 42400:17:13,414 --> 00:17:15,694I love and celebrate you, sometimes it's 42500:17:15,694 --> 00:17:17,534not enough to just do one thing to 42600:17:17,534 --> 00:17:18,014meditate. 42700:17:20,894 --> 00:17:23,134And I get it, right?I get it. Sometimes 42800:17:23,134 --> 00:17:24,974we need to be doing several things 42900:17:24,974 --> 00:17:26,574because your brain is like, what do you 43000:17:26,574 --> 00:17:28,654mean do one thing?I'm used to doing five 43100:17:28,654 --> 00:17:31,215different things very well, or so it 43200:17:31,215 --> 00:17:34,095says. Multitasking is a facade. We'll 43300:17:34,095 --> 00:17:36,135talk about that another time. But the 43400:17:36,135 --> 00:17:38,175reality is it may not be enough for you 43500:17:38,175 --> 00:17:41,055to just breathe deeply. OK, 43600:17:41,055 --> 00:17:43,935so here's what we're gonna do. We are 43700:17:43,935 --> 00:17:46,455going to. Count the length of our breath 43800:17:46,455 --> 00:17:48,095on our fingers. OK, I'm showing you so 43900:17:48,095 --> 00:17:49,495you can see me, but if you're on the 44000:17:49,495 --> 00:17:51,135audio, you might you can't see me. But 44100:17:51,135 --> 00:17:52,815hey, you can come over and do this with 44200:17:52,815 --> 00:17:54,935us on YouTube if you're a more visual 44300:17:54,935 --> 00:17:57,095learner, because this is over on YouTube. 44400:17:57,095 --> 00:17:59,375And if you're on YouTube, this is part of 44500:17:59,375 --> 00:18:01,935a full episode about why high achieving 44600:18:01,935 --> 00:18:04,375women often experience anxiety. So here's 44700:18:04,375 --> 00:18:06,495what we're gonna do. I would love for you 44800:18:06,495 --> 00:18:08,855to stand up if you can. If not, you can 44900:18:08,855 --> 00:18:11,255do seated. OK, so I want you to 1st get 45000:18:11,255 --> 00:18:14,095grounded. If it's safe, you can 45100:18:14,095 --> 00:18:16,175close your eyes. Get grounded by 45200:18:16,255 --> 00:18:18,415anchoring down into your feet or your 45300:18:18,415 --> 00:18:21,215seat, and 45400:18:21,215 --> 00:18:23,535then as you breathe out, bring your 45500:18:23,535 --> 00:18:25,295awareness down deep into your belly and 45600:18:25,295 --> 00:18:27,135breathe out, pulling back through your 45700:18:27,135 --> 00:18:29,775abdominals, lifting through your pelvic 45800:18:29,775 --> 00:18:32,735floor, softening 45900:18:32,735 --> 00:18:34,175through your neck and shoulders. 46000:18:36,975 --> 00:18:38,735Inhale deeply, exhale again. 46100:18:40,255 --> 00:18:42,816So get connected to your core. Get 46200:18:42,816 --> 00:18:44,896connected to yourself in your body 46300:18:46,016 --> 00:18:46,976and we're going to count with our 46400:18:46,976 --> 00:18:49,016fingers. So you both hands, you're going 46500:18:49,016 --> 00:18:50,736to inhale for four counts. So use your 46600:18:50,736 --> 00:18:52,336thumb. OK, so you're going to move your 46700:18:52,336 --> 00:18:54,416thumb and count on both hands. Ready. 46800:18:54,416 --> 00:18:55,296Inhale for 46900:18:59,136 --> 00:19:01,53641234. Exhale for 47000:19:02,296 --> 00:19:04,416412 from the belly, pelvic floor up 47100:19:04,976 --> 00:19:06,176four. Good. Inhale. 47200:19:09,936 --> 00:19:12,816Exhale. Pelvic floor. 47300:19:12,816 --> 00:19:14,976Belly lifts. Standing tall. Here we go. 47400:19:16,336 --> 00:19:16,896Inhale. 47500:19:20,336 --> 00:19:20,816Exhale. 47600:19:23,376 --> 00:19:26,176Lift. Lift. Stand tall. Try again. 47700:19:26,896 --> 00:19:27,456Inhale. 47800:19:31,376 --> 00:19:31,856Exhale. 47900:19:36,416 --> 00:19:38,016Shoulders relaxed. One more time. 48000:19:42,416 --> 00:19:42,896Exhale. 48100:19:47,776 --> 00:19:50,336Good. That, my beautiful 48200:19:50,336 --> 00:19:52,736friends, is a power pause. 60 second 48300:19:52,736 --> 00:19:54,977nervous system reset, combining 48400:19:55,057 --> 00:19:57,457grounding, combining core activation, 48500:19:57,457 --> 00:20:00,057combining breath, combining mudras 48600:20:00,057 --> 00:20:01,537because you're using on your fingers, 48700:20:01,697 --> 00:20:04,097combining postural awareness. So yes, 48800:20:04,337 --> 00:20:07,017multilayered, right?Because. Sometimes 48900:20:07,017 --> 00:20:08,697when you're experiencing anxiety and your 49000:20:08,697 --> 00:20:10,577brain is ping ponging back and forth, 49100:20:11,617 --> 00:20:14,017the last thing you're capable of doing is 49200:20:14,017 --> 00:20:16,097getting it to be still, at least in my 49300:20:16,097 --> 00:20:18,017personal experience, from my lived 49400:20:18,017 --> 00:20:20,897experience. So giving it multiple things 49500:20:20,897 --> 00:20:22,737to do in order to experiencing that 49600:20:22,737 --> 00:20:25,537centering, that connectivity 49700:20:25,777 --> 00:20:27,257will bring you to that place within 49800:20:27,257 --> 00:20:29,657yourself where you hopefully feel a 49900:20:29,657 --> 00:20:31,537little more grounded, a little more 50000:20:31,537 --> 00:20:33,537centered. Where you're experiencing a 50100:20:33,537 --> 00:20:36,337little bit more serenity. OK, so 50200:20:36,657 --> 00:20:38,177that's what it's all about. So that was a 50300:20:38,177 --> 00:20:40,937power pause. If you resonated with that 50400:20:40,937 --> 00:20:42,577and you love that, make sure to check out 50500:20:42,577 --> 00:20:44,577the anxiety and stress reset in the links 50600:20:44,577 --> 00:20:46,537below, because it's all about helping you 50700:20:46,577 --> 00:20:48,737to shift your inner state 50800:20:48,737 --> 00:20:51,537quickly by taking these power pauses. So 50900:20:51,537 --> 00:20:54,257that is in the show notes. So 51000:20:54,937 --> 00:20:57,297thank you so much. I really hope that 51100:20:57,297 --> 00:21:00,097this was a insightful 51200:21:00,977 --> 00:21:03,377episode. And if 51300:21:03,377 --> 00:21:06,098only gave you that sense of 51400:21:06,418 --> 00:21:09,058wow, I am not alone in 51500:21:09,058 --> 00:21:11,858this. I I experiencing some 51600:21:11,858 --> 00:21:14,738or all of what Megan is talking about. If 51700:21:14,738 --> 00:21:17,218you relate to this, if you feel this 51800:21:17,378 --> 00:21:19,138calling for a more. 51900:21:19,698 --> 00:21:22,498Holistic, integrative mind, body, 52000:21:22,498 --> 00:21:24,538spirit approach. You've tried the things, 52100:21:24,538 --> 00:21:26,258right?Like you've got the blue light 52200:21:26,258 --> 00:21:28,578blocker glasses, you're doing the 52300:21:28,578 --> 00:21:30,978breathing, you go to the yoga, you maybe 52400:21:30,978 --> 00:21:32,498take the microdose, you drink the 52500:21:32,498 --> 00:21:34,418mushroom coffee like you're going to the 52600:21:34,418 --> 00:21:36,178therapist, you're doing all the things 52700:21:36,178 --> 00:21:38,178and and it's like, how do I make sense of 52800:21:38,178 --> 00:21:40,978all of this?Like it's common, 52900:21:40,978 --> 00:21:43,298right?And that that mistake is that is 53000:21:43,298 --> 00:21:46,258that we dabble in all the things. But 53100:21:46,258 --> 00:21:48,338not enough of any of it for it to really 53200:21:48,418 --> 00:21:50,378make a difference, because it hasn't 53300:21:50,378 --> 00:21:53,098become part of who you are and how you 53400:21:53,098 --> 00:21:55,258show up for yourself because you're 53500:21:55,258 --> 00:21:56,898driven and ambitious and you love to try 53600:21:56,898 --> 00:21:59,538new things, right?It's like it's such an 53700:21:59,538 --> 00:22:01,298interesting double-edged 53800:22:02,178 --> 00:22:04,898sword, two sides of the same coin place 53900:22:04,898 --> 00:22:07,858to be that I. I get it. I 54000:22:07,858 --> 00:22:10,178get it like that's. I get it. Why do you 54100:22:10,178 --> 00:22:12,178think I, you know, I'm a personal trainer 54200:22:12,178 --> 00:22:14,378and a yoga instructor and I'm into the 54300:22:14,378 --> 00:22:17,218subcontest reprogramming?Because that's 54400:22:17,378 --> 00:22:19,899that's me too. So 54500:22:21,299 --> 00:22:23,459luckily I've been able to weave all of 54600:22:23,459 --> 00:22:25,219this together and that's the core of the 54700:22:25,219 --> 00:22:26,819work that I do and that's the core of the 54800:22:26,819 --> 00:22:28,659flow framework that I'm going to be 54900:22:28,659 --> 00:22:30,859teaching in the next episode. So if if 55000:22:30,859 --> 00:22:33,059this resonated with you, make sure to 55100:22:33,059 --> 00:22:35,659check out next week's episode or. You 55200:22:35,699 --> 00:22:36,939know, if you're watching, listening to 55300:22:36,979 --> 00:22:38,579this later, then go ahead and check out 55400:22:38,579 --> 00:22:40,779the next one or go backwards if you 55500:22:40,779 --> 00:22:42,979happen to be listening to that one. So 55600:22:43,699 --> 00:22:45,299thank you so much for being here. Thank 55700:22:45,299 --> 00:22:47,459you so much for doing the work that 55800:22:47,459 --> 00:22:49,099you're doing in the world by being you, 55900:22:49,779 --> 00:22:50,859right. And that might show up 56000:22:50,859 --> 00:22:52,819professionally in the work that you do if 56100:22:52,819 --> 00:22:54,299you're a business owner or or 56200:22:54,299 --> 00:22:56,859professionally in how you show up in the 56300:22:56,859 --> 00:22:58,499workplace that you're part of or your 56400:22:58,499 --> 00:23:00,819relationships or your family. But I know 56500:23:01,059 --> 00:23:02,579that at the core, 56600:23:03,459 --> 00:23:06,019really, truly what?Is so 56700:23:06,019 --> 00:23:08,459important, very likely to you is to 56800:23:09,379 --> 00:23:11,339to be yourself and to be witnessed and 56900:23:11,339 --> 00:23:14,099seen for all that you are. Because 57000:23:14,419 --> 00:23:16,659as someone who has these dreams and is, 57100:23:16,819 --> 00:23:18,699you know, out there doing cool things in 57200:23:18,699 --> 00:23:20,939the world, you're a change maker, right? 57300:23:20,939 --> 00:23:22,899And whether you identify with being a 57400:23:22,899 --> 00:23:24,899change maker or a visionary or not, 57500:23:25,539 --> 00:23:27,379you're doing amazing things in the world 57600:23:27,379 --> 00:23:30,179just by being here. And if you're like, I 57700:23:30,179 --> 00:23:32,140wanna be like that and you're not. Kind 57800:23:32,140 --> 00:23:34,260of identifying with that yet?No worries. 57900:23:34,260 --> 00:23:35,660The beautiful thing is that you are 58000:23:35,660 --> 00:23:38,020co-creating your reality. You have things 58100:23:38,020 --> 00:23:39,740in your heart and that you've been called 58200:23:39,740 --> 00:23:41,380to do, or maybe you're uncovering them, 58300:23:41,700 --> 00:23:44,420or maybe even more so. Just know that 58400:23:45,140 --> 00:23:47,300this beautiful gift of humanity that 58500:23:47,300 --> 00:23:49,380you're experiencing as this beautiful 58600:23:49,380 --> 00:23:51,220being, having these moment to moment 58700:23:51,220 --> 00:23:53,460experiences, it's all there to teach us. 58800:23:53,460 --> 00:23:55,060It's all there to help us grow. And I 58900:23:55,060 --> 00:23:58,020know sometimes when it's you are. In the 59000:23:58,260 --> 00:24:00,500anxiety tornado and the self-doubt is 59100:24:00,500 --> 00:24:02,500loud and the self-critical voice is 59200:24:02,500 --> 00:24:04,900screaming and it feels like there's no 59300:24:04,900 --> 00:24:07,140way out and you don't know up or down. I 59400:24:07,140 --> 00:24:09,140want you to know that these tools, these 59500:24:09,140 --> 00:24:11,860power pauses, this episode, this 59600:24:11,860 --> 00:24:14,500podcast are really here to be an anchor 59700:24:14,580 --> 00:24:17,180for you. And really through that 59800:24:17,180 --> 00:24:19,100recognition and it's all comes back to 59900:24:19,100 --> 00:24:21,820self-awareness. Literally that's the crux 60000:24:21,820 --> 00:24:24,180of all of it is being compassionate with 60100:24:24,180 --> 00:24:26,420yourself. And cultivating awareness in 60200:24:26,420 --> 00:24:28,100these moments and just witnessing these 60300:24:28,100 --> 00:24:30,020patterns in these tendencies and 60400:24:30,020 --> 00:24:32,100realizing that you are a powerful being 60500:24:32,140 --> 00:24:34,340and you get to create your future from 60600:24:34,340 --> 00:24:37,220this moment now. Cultivating this 60700:24:37,220 --> 00:24:39,340level of presence and 60800:24:39,700 --> 00:24:42,500inner centeredness so that you can 60900:24:42,500 --> 00:24:44,461really live from that place. You can move 61000:24:44,461 --> 00:24:46,021from that place, you can show up from 61100:24:46,021 --> 00:24:48,581that place because you're truly, you're 61200:24:48,581 --> 00:24:50,181very powerful and you're far more 61300:24:50,181 --> 00:24:51,581powerful than you give yourself credit 61400:24:51,581 --> 00:24:54,381for. And I'm so grateful to 61500:24:54,421 --> 00:24:56,421be on this life journey with you. Reach 61600:24:56,461 --> 00:24:57,781out with any questions. Make sure to 61700:24:57,781 --> 00:24:59,621check out the anxiety and stress reset in 61800:24:59,621 --> 00:25:01,581the comments or description below. And if 61900:25:01,581 --> 00:25:03,221you have any questions about anything 62000:25:03,221 --> 00:25:05,981that I shared, please reach out. And 62100:25:05,981 --> 00:25:07,461definitely make sure to check out next 62200:25:07,461 --> 00:25:10,021week's episode where we talk about the 62300:25:10,021 --> 00:25:11,341flow framework that helps you to 62400:25:11,341 --> 00:25:12,501integrate everything that we've been 62500:25:12,501 --> 00:25:14,181talking about here today. Sending you 62600:25:14,181 --> 00:25:15,861lots of love. Take good care. Bye, bye.