Why parenting can shake up your marriage: How to fight better, repair faster, and stay connected with Eli Weinstein

Eli Weinstein, couples therapist and author of the upcoming book From I Do to We Do: Navigating Marriage in Parenting Years, joins me to talk about what really happens to a relationship after kids.   Together we explore:   - Why parenthood doesn't just add stress, it reactivates attachment patterns and old wounds in both partners. - What's really happening when you keep having the same fight on repeat, and how to begin spotting the deeper need beneath it. - How mental load, feeling unseen, and constant "downloading" logistics quietly erode connection and build resentment. - The difference between "we made up" and actually repairing what keeps breaking. - How couples get stuck in "gridlock arguments" and what helps uncover what's really driving the conflict. - The role overstimulation and nervous system overload play in reactivity at home. - Practical ways couples can reset and regrow in this new season, without waiting for more time, sleep, or perfect circumstances   This episode is designed to help you feel less alone in the mess of marriage after kids, and more confident about what actually helps couples stay connected, communicate better, and find their way back to each other.       LEARN MORE ABOUT MY GUEST: 🔗Eli Weinstein  📚From I Do to We Do: Navigating Marriage in the Parenting Years 🎧The Dude Therapist Podcast 🎧 Listen to Eli's last Securely Attached episode about busting parenting gender stereotypes with Eli Weinstein      FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM: 📱@eliweinstein_lcsw 📱@drsarahbren     ADDITIONAL REFERENCES AND RESOURCES: 🔗 Want to learn more about therapy and coaching resources at Upshur Bren Psychology Group? Visit upshurbren.com to explore our services for individuals, couples, parents and kids and schedule a free 30-minute consultation call to find the support that's right for your family.     CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE: 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about how secure attachment influences children's ability to make sense of their experiences and cope in the face of adversity with Dr. Alan Sroufe   🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about codependency, insecure attachment, and relationship patterns with Alana Carvalho   🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about whether your child can be securely attached to you if you are insecurely attached in your adult relationships