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Feb 14, 2025 12 min

Why Self-Love Isn’t About ‘Bouncing Back’ or ‘Fixing’ Yourself"

from Psychologically Speaking with Leila Ainge

Transformation stories are everywhere—before-and-afters, glow-ups, success arcs. But what if real self-love isn’t about reinventing yourself—but about being present where you are, without pressure? This episode unpacks how social media, self-help culture, and gendered resilience narratives push us toward self-optimization at the cost of self-acceptance. We explore the psychology of storytelling (McAdams, 2001), the feminist critique of the "bounce-backable woman" (Gill & Orgad, 2018), and why emotional smoothing shapes how we retell our past. If you’re ready to stop waiting for the ‘perfect’ story and start sharing where you are, this one’s for you. Connect with Leila online at www.leilaainge.co.uk and subscribe to her newsletter for psychological insights direct to your inbox. to sign up for the FREE Webinar, head to www.leilaainge.co.uk Psychologically Speaking is produced by Buckers at Decibelle Creative / @decibelle_creative

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