Why Women are Anxious Overachievers & Men are Confidently Incompetent

You can find the synopsis of this episode, further notes, and a convenient place to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠comment ⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.  The key points in this "speaking": Of course, all categories (male, female, white, black, cis, trans, etc.) are imaginaries. No individual can be captured fully by a category, and many individuals lie outside these patterns. The man is the neutral, the normal, the standard. The woman is the aberration, the abnormal, that which stands out. Man is the genderless gender, just as whiteness is the raceless race.  This relation is a mirror is a more fundamental internal relation between the self: the self is two, both subject and object The earliest surveillance is a self-surveillance that happens when the self becomes two, both subject and object. In society, man takes the place of the neutral gaze, and the woman takes the place of the contingent object of sight. Women are anxious because we are aware of our contingency, our nakedness beneath the constant gaze of patriarchal society. This includes people of other marginalized identities as well. Because abstraction requires temporal extension, the present moment is where categories go to die. In the now, the self as subject and the self as object folds back into itself, becoming self-identical. If you have questions, comments, or suggestions for future topics, you can email me at ⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠. You can also check out my website at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.sondrawriter.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, where you'll find my essays and links to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠my memoir⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Music is L'épisode cévenol by Circus Marcus, from the Free Music Archive. License type: CC BY-NC.You can find the synopsis of this episode, further notes, and a convenient place to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠comment ⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.