Why You Keep Getting Told No to Sex (And It’s Not About Attraction)

Many higher sex drive partners are accidentally reinforcing the cycle of getting told no. This episode will help you break the cycle.Certified Sex Therapist, Heather Shannon, explores the patterns and emotional dynamics behind rejection in relationships, especially when one partner has a higher sex drive. In this episode, we'll break down common behaviors like withdrawal, performance, and story-telling, offering insights into how to shift these patterns for healthier intimacy.Chapters00:00 The Rejection Loop in Relationships00:29 Why Rejection Isn't About Attraction00:56 Understanding the Pattern of Withdrawal02:17 The Impact of Withdrawal on Emotional Needs03:08 Attachment to Outcomes and Anxiety03:54 Introducing Self-Energy and Spaciousness05:15 Performance and Doing Sex for Your Partner07:00 Authentic Desire vs. Performing Sex08:18 The Power of Honest Communication09:32 Managing Pressure and Expectations11:37 The Stories We Tell About Rejection12:52 Facts vs. Stories in Relationships14:35 Relating to Thoughts and Stories15:28 Protective and Exiled Parts in Emotional Regulation17:11 Living at the Mercy of External Factors17:37 Achieving Emotional Equanimity18:26 Creating Space for Authentic Desire19:20 Personalized Healing and Emotional ManagementWork with HeatherFind out more about Heather's Pathway to Passion coaching program and see if it can help you stop stressing about sex and start having fun in the bedroom again! https://HeatherShannon.coKeywordsrelationship advice, sex drive, emotional mastery, attachment, communication, Heather Shannon, intimacy, relationship patterns, self-energy, emotional regulationThis podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp