Why Your Feelings Shouldn’t Be in the Driver’s Seat | Episode 72

Someone threw a fit at family game night last week. Multiple someones, actually. What started as a parenting moment nobody planned for became the conversation we didn’t know we needed: What to do when you make decisions while angry and what happens when your emotions are running the show in your home, your divorce, and even your politics? [Content Warning: This episode discusses murder-suicide, domestic violence, grief and loss, divorce, and emotional distress. Resources for crisis support are included in the Links section.]In this episode, Dr. Marjorie and Michael explain why making life decisions while your feelings are lit is just as dangerous as getting behind the wheel buzzed. From the death by a thousand cuts in failing marriages to the heartbreaking Justin Fairfax tragedy, they dive into why emotional sobriety is a survival skill. They delve into how to teach kids emotional regulation at home, how to control emotions during divorce, how to process grief as a single parent, and how to stay calm during high-conflict divorce. They tackle the high stakes of accountability, why they refuse to raise any "Busters," and how feelings and vibes are currently running the country from the top down.Emotional regulation isn't about keeping it together. It’s about knowing what to do when you can’t. Because at the end of the day, if someone can knock you off your square that easily, you're the one who's weak. Inside the Episode:The Emotionally Drunk Metaphor: The concept that reframes every bad decision you've ever made when upset, and explains why you can't be trusted with your life or your money when you're emotionally inebriated. The Justin Fairfax Wake Up Call: Waking up to news of a murder-suicide during a divorce. A raw look at the extremes of divorce and the work it takes to stay present and healthy.Grief & Permission to be Not Okay: Why Dr. Michael is done performing fine while processing loss. On processing loss differently,  and why taking a beat and being honest might be the most powerful thing you can do."I Refuse to Raise a Buster": Kids don't learn emotional regulation from a textbook; they learn it by doing it with us. Real talk on raising Black men, "crash outs," and navigating generational terminology and what it means to be a role model when everything in you wants to do the opposite.The Oval Office Problem: When the most powerful person in the world is allowed to behave emotionally unregulated, what does that teach the next generation?Co-Regulation parenting techniques: Why your kids aren't listening to you, but they are watching how you bounce back.The Square Test: Dr. Strayhorn’s wisdom on why letting someone knock you off your square makes you the weak one. "If you can knock me off my square that easily, then I'm the one that's weak, not you.”"Are you making decisions in a state of emotional sobriety?" "You can't do that with your life. You can't do that with your money.""Life is gonna kick you while you're down. How can we help people deal with it?" 📱 Follow Us on InstagramParents & Professors Podcast: / parentsandprofessorspodDr. Michael Steven Williams: / drmikewill Dr. Marjorie Dorimé-Williams: / drminimarj