Working with Disorganised Attachment in Therapy

🎓 Get your CPD certificate from our website.Understanding Disorganised Attachment in Relationships, Trauma & Attachment-Informed TherapyDisorganised attachment is one of the most complex and misunderstood attachment styles in attachment theory.In this episode of Attach Together, Darren is joined by counsellor and attachment-based psychotherapist Gav McKee to explore how disorganised attachment develops, how it shapes adult relationships, and how therapists can work safely and effectively with clients who carry unresolved attachment trauma.For therapists working with trauma, personality disorder presentations, complex PTSD, or dissociation, understanding this attachment style is essential.This conversation explores the clinical realities of working with unresolved attachment in therapy, including relational dynamics, emotional dysregulation, dissociation, and the importance of pacing and safety.🔎What You'll Learn• What disorganised attachment is and how it develops• The research of Mary Ainsworth, Mary Main and Judith Solomon• The concept of fright without solution in attachment theory• How trauma can be transmitted across generations• Why disorganised attachment often appears alongside complex PTSD• The push-pull dynamic often seen in adult relationships• Emotional flooding, dissociation and shame in attachment trauma• Why safety and stabilisation must come before trauma processing• How therapists can become a consistent and regulating relational presenceClinical Takeaways for Therapists• Disorganised attachment often originates when the caregiver is both comfort and threat• Clients may experience intense approach-avoid patterns in relationships• Emotional dysregulation and dissociation are common presentations• Therapy must prioritise relational safety before trauma processing• The therapeutic relationship itself becomes a corrective attachment experience🕝Chapters00:00 Introduction to the Attachment Theory Podcast01:40 What Is Disorganised Attachment?03:25 Fright Without Solution Explained06:52 Intergenerational Trauma and Attachment08:34 How Disorganised Attachment Appears in Adults11:29 Relationship Patterns and Emotional Dysregulation13:17 Working Safely with Disorganised Attachment15:19 The Therapist as a Secure Base18:55 Can Disorganised Attachment Be Resolved?23:34 Clinical Dilemma: Dissociation in Therapy26:02 Grounding Clients in the Therapy Room27:11 The Value of Attachment Training27:11 The Value of Attachment Training🎓Resources Mentioned• Mary Ainsworth – Strange Situation research• Mary Main & Judith Solomon – Disorganised attachment classificationFREE CPD Certificate & Reflection PackYou can download the FREE CPD Certificate for this episode via our website www.optimahealthservices.co.uk and join our listener list to receive the Reflection Pack for future episodes.