You Know You Should Leave

Come Back To Yourself Program- Apply at: www.savannanoelle.com/comebackYou know you should leave. You’ve known for a while. But every time you get close to the door, something pulls you back in. It feels like love. It feels like longing and a chemical rush.You think that if you leave it, you won’t find anyone else and you’ll be left alone forever. You will not feel safe. It is toxic but familiar. You convince yourself that you need it.I’ve definitely been there. I don’t speak often of the number of abusive relationships I’ve been involved in, but these dynamics speak directly to the way our childhood trauma sets the stage for these types of relationships we can’t seem to leave.In Part 1 of this two-part series, we’re going deep into what a trauma bond actually is, why it forms, and what’s happening in your brain and body when you can’t seem to break free from the toxic relationship you’re in.We’re talking intermittent reinforcement, nervous system hijacking, and the cycle that creates attachment not despite the pain — but because of it.I’m also sharing my own experience with a specific relationship I was in where that trauma bond played out over five years — and how I finally found the courage to choose myself and what it took to let go.If you’ve ever stayed longer than you should have, gone back when you swore you wouldn’t, or found yourself defending someone who keeps hurting you — this one is for you.I hope you enjoy. 🤍 Get full access to Savanna's Substack at savannanoelle.substack.com/subscribe