you need to get out of your own damn way

🎧 EPISODE #2🗓 Originally published: Feb 9, 2024 | YouTube⏱️ Runtime: ~12 mins🎙 Hosted by Danielle ColadaWake up girlies, it’s a ✨BRAND NEW✨ episode of “Diary of a Mid-30s Girlie,” the official podcast for the last b*tch in her friend group to get her sh*t together!Come hang as I dive into what it’s like to still be FITFO when the whole world makes you feel like you’re behind. This week we’re DEBUNKING THE MYTH OF BEING LAZY, the only true 4-letter word in my book. In short, you’re not lazy. The real reason you’re not getting anywhere is because you keep pumping the breaks while revving your engine. There are several different ways to start taking the bricks out of your backpack, so let’s dive in! love you and see you in the comments😘 💖, D 🔎 find me on other socials if you want @daniellecolada⏱ TIMESTAMPS + TAKEAWAYS00:00 – Intro & today’s theme You don’t need to push harder — you need to stop getting in your own way.00:27 – Revving the engine = wearing yourself out 🚘 Constant effort + mental resistance = burnout. Progress comes from removing blocks, not just pushing forward.01:00 – When your self-worth is tied to productivity 💡 ADHD can distort your sense of effort vs. outcome. You’re not lazy — you’re overclocked and overwhelmed.01:30 – Productivity rabbit holes 🧠 Newsflash: You’re not lazy. If you want to do something but can’t, something’s in the way.01:50 – Tip #1: Declutter your distractions 🧹 Clutter = cognitive load. Even visual chaos drains energy. You don’t need a minimalist aesthetic — but you do need peace.03:00 – Mental clutter is real clutter 💡 The things you think you should be doing pull focus, even when you’re not doing them. Clear your mind like you’d clear your desk.03:45 – Don’t do it all at once ✨ ADHD-friendly tip: declutter one drawer at a time. Avoid all-or-nothing spirals.04:50 – Bonus tool: Open Tab Inventory 💡 Not everything you're thinking about is an action item. Separate thoughts from tasks. Name your tabs. Filter them.05:45 – Tip #2: Identify & eliminate friction points 🔥 Friction = anything that slows down or blocks momentum. Reduce steps between you and your next move.06:15 – Your air fryer needs a clear counter 💡 Make the easy thing actually easy. Set up your environment to support your intentions.06:22 – Tip #3: Minimize your routines 🌅 Simple > Perfect. Wake up → bathroom → coffee → sit down to work. That’s it. No drama.07:10 – Leverage your sleepy brainwaves 💡 The faster you start your important work after waking, the easier it is to enter flow. (Especially if you prepped the night before!)07:44 – Tip #4: Let go of perfection as you rebuild 🫶 Habits need room to grow. If you mess up your night routine? Adjust, don’t spiral. Flexibility keeps momentum alive.08:50 – Tip #5: Energetically cut the cords 🔮 Reclaim your energy. Let go of guilt, people-pleasing, and emotional entanglements that aren’t your job to manage.09:56 – Tip #6: Uncover your limiting beliefs (aka shadow work)🪞Shadow work = becoming aware of the hidden beliefs running the show. You can’t challenge a belief you haven’t named.11:00 – “Even if nothing comes of this, I’m still glad I did it.💡 Joyful action is never wasted. You are not entitled to the fruits of your labor — only the labor itself. (Bhagavad Gita…ish.)11:56 – Closing out + community invitation 💌 This is not just a podcast — it’s a co-created space. Questions? Requests? Let’s build it together.🛠 PRACTICAL TIPS FROM THIS EPISODE✅ Declutter your space one drawer at a time✅ Track your open mental tabs (Notion, notes app, or paper)✅ Identify friction points & eliminate extra steps✅ Create ADHD-friendly mini routines (no 5am bootcamp required)✅ Reclaim your energy: release guilt, people-pleasing, emotional clutter✅ Question the stories you’re telling yourself — especially the ones you didn’t realize were there💬 PROMPT FOR LISTENERS:What’s one brake you’ve been pressing without realizing it?What’s one friction point you can remove this week? Get full access to It Girls Never Die at daniellecolada.substack.com/subscribe