You’re Not Asking for Too Much

For as long as I can remember, I was a sensitive, emotional child. My expressiveness and longing for connection were off the charts. I could sense energies and people who weren’t safe, yet as children we’re rarely given the words to name what we feel. Instead, we learn to mask, suppress, or shrink to survive.But I couldn’t hide it—it was written all over my face. So I learned another way: I internalized blame, accepted abuse, stayed small, and abandoned myself to win scraps of love. The message was clear: You’re too much. Too sensitive. Too emotional. Too deep. Too loud.And yet, all these years later, these very traits have shaped my work with clients and sharpened my intuition. They’ve protected me and guided me. The problem was never my sensitivity—it was the messaging. My vulnerability, I have come to find, is a great strength. Those early lessons creep into adulthood, especially relationships: If I ask for too much, I’ll be left. If I show how I feel, I’ll be rejected. If I ask for a need to be met, I will be abandoned.So we silence ourselves, hoping to keep love. We mask our needs until we can’t anymore—like the toddlers I care for, who hold it together all day only to melt down when they finally see a safe face. They remind me: who we are is enough.When we believe we’re “too much,” we smother joy, our birthright. We trade authenticity for crumbs. Real intimacy requires vulnerability—the courage to be seen. Joy arises when we stop chasing, tiptoeing, and camouflaging our needs in hopes someone will choose us. This is personal power.Settling isn’t safety—it’s self-abandonment disguised as compromise.Every time you stay in almost-love, you teach yourself to shrink.Every time you accept crumbs, you teach yourself to starve.The truth? You’re not asking for too much. You’re asking the wrong person. Their inability to meet you isn’t your flaw—it’s their capacity.Your work isn’t to convince someone to rise—it’s to meet yourself fully. To stop begging to be chosen, and instead, become the one who chooses. Keep fully showing up for yourself.In my last episode, we explored chasing the unavailable and the cycle of breadcrumbing. Today, we’re going deeper: into the truth that you are not “too much”—and how to stop settling for almost. Because sometimes, walking away is the bravest, wisest choice you can make.You deserve joy. You deserve to have your needs met. Unapologetically.I hope you’ll have a listen! If this resonated with you, please share, subscribe, or drop me a note. Your support means so much to me! You’re amazing. Remember that. Get full access to Savanna's Substack at savannanoelle.substack.com/subscribe