EPISODE · May 20, 2026 · 9 MIN
You're Not Self Sabotaging. This Is What's Actually Happening
from Intentional Living with Ben Robins · host Ben Robins
Work with me===========================My website - https://ben-robins.com/LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-robins-coaching/===========================Most people think they struggle with self-sabotage - that invisible force that shows up right when things start going well.But what if that’s not what’s actually happening?In this video, I’ll unpack why self-sabotage isn’t really the problem - and what’s actually driving the behaviours that keep you stuck, even when you know exactly what you should be doing.From identity patterns formed long before you had a choice, to hidden benefits behind “bad” habits, this video looks at how your actions are not random, broken, or against you; but deeply logical once you understand what they’re protecting.If you’ve ever felt like you’re working against yourself, this will completely change how you see your behaviour.In this video, you’ll discover:Why self-sabotage is often a misleading label that hides the real issueHow identity acts like an internal “autopilot” that shapes your behaviourWhy you keep repeating patterns that don’t serve youThe hidden logic behind habits that look destructive on the surfaceWhy every behaviour is actually solving a problem for youHow unconscious stories about yourself keep you stuckThe link between identity and the “benefits” behind your habitsHow to question the story you’ve been proving without realising itWhy change becomes easier when you stop seeing yourself as the problem⏰ Timestamps: ⏰00:00 - Introduction01:45 - Why self-sabotage might not exist02:26 - The two sides to being stuck02:38 - Side one: The identity you didn’t choose05:01 - Protecting yourself from a potential loss05:23 - Side two: Is “bad” behaviour your solution?07:06 - There’s a benefit to everything – even smoking!08:03 - Identity, habits and the real connection08:51 - The story your behaviour is protecting09:11 - How to finally change what’s stuckThis video was produced by the team at Zapods Podcast Agency: https://www.zapods.com
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Work with me===========================My website - https://ben-robins.com/LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-robins-coaching/===========================Most people think they struggle with self-sabotage - that invisible force that shows up right when things start going well.But what if that’s not what’s actually happening?In this video, I’ll unpack why self-sabotage isn’t really the problem - and what’s actually driving the behaviours that keep you stuck, even when you know exactly what you should be doing.From identity patterns formed long before you had a choice, to hidden benefits behind “bad” habits, this video looks at how your actions are not random, broken, or against you; but deeply logical once you understand what they’re protecting.If you’ve ever felt like you’re working against yourself, this will completely change how you see your behaviour.In this video, you’ll discover:Why self-sabotage is often a misleading label that hides the real issueHow identity acts like an internal “autopilot” that shapes your behaviourWhy you keep repeating patterns that don’t serve youThe hidden logic behind habits that look destructive on the surfaceWhy every behaviour is actually solving a problem for youHow unconscious stories about yourself keep you stuckThe link between identity and the “benefits” behind your habitsHow to question the story you’ve been proving without realising itWhy change becomes easier when you stop seeing yourself as the problem⏰ Timestamps: ⏰00:00 - Introduction01:45 - Why self-sabotage might not exist02:26 - The two sides to being stuck02:38 - Side one: The identity you didn’t choose05:01 - Protecting yourself from a potential loss05:23 - Side two: Is “bad” behaviour your solution?07:06 - There’s a benefit to everything – even smoking!08:03 - Identity, habits and the real connection08:51 - The story your behaviour is protecting09:11 - How to finally change what’s stuckThis video was produced by the team at Zapods Podcast Agency: https://www.zapods.com
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